meeting people in person from the internets...

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  1. TheMarchHare

    TheMarchHare OT Supporter

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    how does this usually work out without it being awkward? ionno, seems like it might be... and i'm supposed to meet this girl pretty soon...

    treat it like a blind date? or... i actually don't know where to begin...
     
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  2. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    It's still a date. It can be awkward obviously but if you've been talking to this person for a while via the internet you don't have to treat her like a stranger when you actually meet.
     
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    hrmmm maybe i just suck at dating.
     
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    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :ugh: why?
     
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    lol
    ionno... maybe i'm an awkward person to date... not sure...

    should date convo be any different from any other convo? my guess is no. and break in conversation is something i hate. >.<

    by that, i mean "running out of things to say" syndrome.
     
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    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Talk like a normal human being, that's a start.

    Talk about what interests you, ask about her :mb:
     
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    yea... i'm not a socially awkward person, im just 'out there' (overextraverted, if that even means anything) but i've been in a dating slump lately. girls i meet are not interesting/interested. =/ so i've turned to meeting people in the internets (that and lack of time for going out and meeting people outside my social networks)
     
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    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Well the best advice I can give you is the same advice I would give anyone going on a date-don't get your hopes up.

    Go into it with an open mind. I think the biggest mistake a lot of people make when using the internet to meet others is they think they are falling in love with that person when unfortunately almost everyone has a sort of internet persona. Who you actually meet in person might not be the girl you remember chatting to. But it's nothing to cry over because just like any regular date you live and learn. If you meet and you two don't feel a real connection then just move on. Never push a relationship just because you invested a lot of time with that person on the internet and assume that they'll eventually be that same persona you liked.
     
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    good advice. thanks! yea haven't invested too much time in it... i guess my questions melded from internet dating to just dating in general... but good applicable advice nonetheless. :wiggle:
     
  10. Martinj

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    You could also talk with her over the phone.....and for general dating, just take in stride, be yourself, don't see it as a test for you to pass, but just for you to see if this is a girl you want to spend time with.
     
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    talking over the phone does help before meeting. then it's just like you are meeting up with a friend because you know them 'somewhat'

    meet at a public place and treat the first date as a fun get together and think nothing much of it. if you feel her and vice versa then go from there.
    just don't dwell on it
     
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    its only awkward if you make it awkward
     
  13. Diesel66

    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    one benefit is many girls see the internet as the first few dates, so they are much more willing to hop over a few steps and into bed lol.



    Just meet fairly quickly. The longer you two chat online, more likely you will like their persona instead of their reality. or myspace angles, nervous tics, some rude act they do, etc....

    Plus it's just simply a waste of time to chat with someone that you really don't end up liking in the first place.
     

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