...so obviously im extremely nervous, excited, even a little terrified, etc. i was just wondering if anyone has gone through anything like this and maybe has any advice? maybe if anyone in here is adopted and considered meeting their birth parent(s) and maybe changed their mind? here's a little background on what i know about her... when she found out she was pregnant she was still living in mexico with her parents and i believe she was around 20. well she went to tell my birthfather she was pregnant and he told her he was engaged and just left. so obviously i have some resentment towards him and dont care to meet him one way or another. (he was murdered i think 8 years ago so its not possible anyway.) well my mom and dad have told me and my brother that we were adopted since we were old enough to understand (adopted from different families) which is something im thankful for. any questions we had we were always welcomed to ask and me being the talker i am, i always had questions. my mom has always kept in touch with my birthmother. she has sent her my school pictures every year and our christmas cards every year. so she has in essence, seen me grow up. they have emailed every so often just to chit chat and catch each other up with everything. there's one slight sppedbump... my birthmother only speaks spanish, so my mom is basically the only one in my family who care communicate with her. my birthmother decided when she put me up for adoption that she wanted me to go to a family where at least one of the parents was fluent in spanish so i wouldnt lose my roots. (i was fluent in spanish at one point, thats another story.) so when i see her next month im going to have so many things i want to ask her and talk to her about and my mom will be coming with me, for support and to translate. mostly for support, i can understand almost everything in spanish; my problem is speaking it back and having it make sense. (i'm brushing up with rosetta stone as we speak ) im not goingto change my mind, i am going to go to meet her. i was just wondering if anyone has gone through anything like this and maybe has some words of wisdom. if not, hope youre as excited as i am any advice/support is appreciated! ***edit*** i forgot to mention that i was very hesitant to set up a meeting with her in the first place because of her "boyfriend." i use quotes because he is a controlling fuckwad and i'm glad i don't have to put up with him everyday. i wanted her to really think about meeting me because i know how he is and i know she would have a lot of things she would need to arrange... like a story to tell to cover where she's going... anywho, he knows about me, he wants her to have nothing to do with me, never mention me, not have pictures of me, nothing... simply because i am from a part of her life that he was not involved in. i remind him that once upon a time another man roamed the curves of his "womenslave" and that simply cannot be! so he thinks if he ignores it... it ceases to exist. she and this manzilla have two daughters together, my two half-sisters. they however have no idea i exist because he has chosen it must be that way. i want to meet them so badly, i have a picture of them and my birthmother together from this past year. but i will respect what she has asked me to respect. she informed me that if i come next month it will be to only meet her and not my sisters and not her slavemaster, and i accepted. she surprised me... she actually told master that i was coming to meet her, he granted her permission rant but said he and his daughters will not take part. i would have spit in his face anyway. sorry if this part doesnt make sense, i get very heated when i think about the fact that she's trapped with someone who claims to love her but refuses to acknowledge her presence except when he needs a sandwich.