me=25 girl=21 w/ a kid.... is this a bad idea?

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  1. Athlete218

    Athlete218 New Member

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    so i met this girl & looks wise, she is exactly my type..short, dark hair, tan, pretty face, nice booty, skinny etc..on top of that, she seems like a really cool girl. I barely know her but i asked out to go out sometime, she added me on myspace & i'm looking through her pictures on there & about 60% of them include pictures of her w/ what looks like a 3? year old kid. I'm guessing the age of the kid, but that's what i think.. now i'm thinking if it were 1 or 2 pics, it may be a niece or nephew.........BUT when it's the majority of her pics, I'm pretty sure it's her kid. She hasn't come out & said she has a kid but we just met, so I don't hold anything against her for that.

    Now, I'm 25 yrs old.....just got out of a LONG LONG relationship this past winter & now am kinda ready to start dating again (at least i feel that way & i haven't felt ready for a long time).

    I'm kind of digging this girl from the little I know of her, but throw a kid in the mix & it's completely different than what I'm used to.


    Should I still give it a chance & go out with her? I really don't know what to do b/c since I've been single, she is one of 2 girls I've met that I felt like I could potentially have a connection with.
     
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    give it a shot...as you get older your chances of meeting a compatible chick without a kid or divorce under he belt get smaller...
     
  3. fray

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    um...does her myspace profile say she has children??
     
  4. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    You need to stop worrying so much. You can and should at least go on one date with her.

    A date does not equal another 6 year relationship, nor should you even think of jumping into a real relationship soon. You might get to know her even after 4 dates and find out you just aren't interested, kid or not, but at least you tried and went on a date :dunno:
     
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    JustaMeThang New Member

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    Give her a chance, no harm.
     
  6. LBFilmGuy

    LBFilmGuy LOL why u mad tho?

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    Yes.

    But if you do fuck her use a condom.
     
  7. lauren

    lauren Active Member

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    you're only 25? if it's a deal breaker, it's a deal breaker. there are plenty of other girls out there without the hassle.


    that's a compromise i'd be making closer to 30.
     
  8. ChaCha

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    ya

    don't get too serious with this one
     
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    see no harm :dunno: go fot it
     
  10. Bruticus

    Bruticus half dead OT Supporter

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    I thought you had a partner? Or does having a SO who isn't the kids father still make you a single parent?
     
  11. wagonproject

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    Give it a shot. But just let her know your intentions upfront on what you want. I am almost 21 and have been dating a girl for 2 years who is 21. She has a 3 year old girl. I wouldn't change it for anything.
     
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    uwofrost New Denver Crew

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    Been there done that... bound to fail if your not looking to play house with her kid
     
  13. chakup

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    It also depends alot on the woman. Some women are looking for a new baby's daddy. Other want their dating life and their kids no where near each other unless things progress. As said above the likelihood as you get older of meeting someone with out kids decreases.
     
  14. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    I can't wait til he finds out the child in the photo's is really ust a relative.

    There was a time when just became an aunt that my nephew was in a ton of my pics on Myspace :dunno:
     
  15. jmezz

    jmezz layin in bed stretchin my pumped quads for hours

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    Maybe not even at 30 still.

    I'm all set with the drama that would entail with that situation, assuming that it is actually her kid.
     
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    I still want to know if her myspace profile says 'proud parent' or something else. Did you even look or just immediately start freaking out?
     
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    My ex wife was giving me shit about dating a gal with a kid the other day. I explained to her that she’s kind of an anomaly being +30 years old, sane, no children and a great job. The older you get the harder this is to find.

    But for the TS, lots of others around without children in your age group. But it depends on if you want the hassle of dealing with a child. You will NEVER be #1 in her life,
     
  18. jmezz

    jmezz layin in bed stretchin my pumped quads for hours

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    Even when it's your own kid you still take a back seat.
     
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    lol major deal breaker. but if you cant do better, go for it.
     
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    basically
     
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    if she has a kid atleast you know she puts out
     
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    it's why i go to the planned parenthood clinic to pick up women :naughty:
     
  24. Athlete218

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    no, it is.. when people post thing like "how are you and _____ (the kids name) doing, etc... & almost all pics have the kid there w/ her) I would bet w/ 99.9% certainty it's hers
    I get a lot of girls coming up to me when I go out on weekends...not to sound cocky but i consider myself to be top 10%, looks wise, to other guys. I just am very picky when it comes to a combo of looks/personality & there is a certain type of girl i like & i know w/in minutes of meeting a girl if i'd get along w/ her.
    I've always looked down on dating girls w/ kids.. couple of my friends have done it & had bad luck, but i would always crack jokes to them, like "step daddy" comments, etc.... now im considering hanging out w/ a single mom. hah
     
  25. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Just don't go on the date. Do yourself and her a favor at the same time. Keep getting out there and having only casual relationships.
     

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