Masturbation Preferences

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  1. infinite.purple

    infinite.purple New Member

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    Would you rather...

    A) Masturbate alone while watching some quality porn :wackit:

    OR

    B) Have cyber sex on webcam with your hot and horny girlfriend /boyfriend :69:

    ???

    Discuss.
     
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  2. Falconer

    Falconer OT Supporter

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    A.

    I've never been a fan of doing it with my SO watching, or vice versa. It always seemed like a waste of resources (I realize this isn't the case if it's over a webcam, but still).
     
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    What do you mean by waste of resources?

    I have no big problem with porn itself. I'm just hurt that he would prefer to just service himself than help me get off too when we're both horny and a 5 hour drive away from each other.

    If he's horny/bored and I'm unavailable, I guess that's a different story.

    Am I reading too much into this? I think it's also hurtful because we used to do it together all the time and used to be really into it. And the fact that he's not into it now makes me feel like he's not as into ME.

    :(
     
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    I dunno, my boyfriend nd i have a LDR and he masturbates all the time to porn. it doesnt bother me at all. I dont have a webcam, nor do I really masturbate, so I just leave him to do that alone. He does have photos of me/us doing things, but I doubt he ever uses them to masturbate. It doesnt bother me at all. However he has to get himself off is fine with me. At least he's not doing it IRL with other girls, I dont care what he fantasizes about.

    I think youre reading into it too much.
     
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    if we were both horny and on the phone and wanted to get off... and he left to go look at porn instead, i'd be hurt :hs:

    but i don't expect him to call me every time he masturbates to see if i want to too :mamoru:
     
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    That makes sense. Calling every time would be silly. :) But I had just brought it up the same day and he ignored it/blew me off. I just feel like he doesn't care about my sexual satisfaction at all.
     
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    hmm, that would bug me too but he might just be in a bad mood or something. how is the sex when you guys are together? how often do you get to see each other?
     
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    You shouldn't be hurt. I don't know about other guys, but phone sex is NEVER going to make me cum. Not without a lot of fantasizing going on in my head.

    We need visual stimulation of some kind. Your voice, while I'm sure it's sexy or whatever, isn't going to make anybody cum on it's own merit.

    I guess he could fantacize about you too, but meh, you shouldn't take it personally if you are having phone sex and he doesn't get off from it.
     
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    I think that's pretty normal. A lot of girls probably aren't that into masturbation or phone/cyber sex. I would think that a guy would appreciate that kind of thing though in a girlfriend. I don't really expect him to only fantasize about me. I just wish he was as into me as he used to be. I guess after three years, you can't really expect that though. :wtc:

    *sigh* I think you're right. I over-think everything. Thanks for the input.
     
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    Ya I understand that guys need visual stimulation. That's why we webcam! :naughty:
     
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    well i realize some people can't, but we both CAN get off from it, and have in the past, so if he all of a sudden didn't want to, i'd think something was wrong.
     
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    sometimes you feel like a nut, sometimes you don't.... :hsughno:

    casually bringing it up isn't enough to get through to most guys.


    suggest staying on the phone while you both view something?
     
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    And yes, you're reading too much into this. If a guy isn't having sex, he just needs a release and porn does the job just fine. It can feel awkward to jerk off to the gf through web cam because we view them as someone we are intimate with, not someone we simply use as a release. It can be done, but porn is just so much quicker and easier.

    That being said, if I had a gf that is turned on by it then I would be willing to try it if she really likes it.
     
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    We see each other probably every few weeks and the sex is always really good. At least it is for me. I suppose he could be lying to me about that.

    Uggggh... more paranoia. :eek3:
     
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    That's totally what is bugging me! If we had never done it before, I probably wouldn't care at all!

    THANK YOU!
     
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    On webcam, you can DEFINITELY see! ;)
     
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    Well duh, but that was directed at kiri.

    Webcam = VISUAL STIMULATION
     
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    Both?

    I know guys look at porn and even though it bothers me at times I can't expect to be his only form of release. As long as it's not with girls in RL or images of girls he knows in RL then I guess I cant complain. I'm not really into porn, but I guess I understand it's purpose.

    But sometimes it can be kinda hot to have him talking dirty on the phone and hear him jerking off while pleasuring yourself at the same time.
     
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    i've had phone sex often where he watches porn (or i watch porn). i've also called him up in the middle of work, and talked to him while he was out in the parking lot, surely without any visuals.


    i'm confused as to what your point is.
     
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    Hmmm...what would be wrong with that? (assuming he got them in a legitimate way)

    Let's assume there IS a legitimate way to acquire these photos (fuck if I know how to do it, but let's assume for the purpose of discussion)....would it still be wrong for you? Would you have a problem with it?

    Does it bother you to know that there may be times that he fantasizes about girls he knows in real life? Because that happens you know...
     
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    My point is, that I wasn't really talking to either of you. :dunno:
     
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    childish.

    might as well PM. :hsugh:
     
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    this is one of those things that varies by person. I am absolutely not ok with my GF masterbating to pictures of people she knows in real life (ex bf, friend, guys from work etc) while I am completely cool with tone and his 4 friends, or whatever other random porn she might want to see. She on the otherhand found naked pictures of my old fuckbuddy on my phone and said "no, its ok" when i offered to delete them and the next day started sending me pictures to make sure shes the hottest girl on my phone :bigthumb:
     
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    :hsugh:


    try reading. you'll misunderstand less.
     
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    I think there's a pretty big difference between simply fantasizing about it and keeping pictures of other girls purely for that purpose. If you are completely ok with your girlfriend keeping pictures of her guy friends to masturbate to, then that's one thing. But I think you're probably the exception. I don't know a lot of people who would support that. Sure innocent fantasizing might happen, but should it really be a goal?

    I think the added threat comes from there being a pretty decent possibility that your SO could hook up with friends/acquaintances IRL... AND that they know and like other things about them besides just looks. Porn stars are more just like objects. If it's a porn star, I know he's not also wishing he could cuddle up and watch movies with her after sex, or talk to her about his day, etc...
     

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