SRS married 2 months

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  1. titsmcgee

    titsmcgee New Member

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    is it normal to be married 2 months (dated 1 year) and my husband checks out the waitress so obviously tonight and is mad at me because i wish he would just admit it and nicely say sorry
     
  2. Xin

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    everyone is attracted to tons of people. no harm in looking. trying to deny you look or hide it is kinda childish though. so a chick is hot - oh well. he's with you, not her.
     
  3. Ford4Life

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    Guys look, it's what we do, no matter how hard you try you aren't going to stop him from looking.

    He isn't acting upon it, so why make a big deal out of it?
     
  4. Bruticus

    Bruticus half dead OT Supporter

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    I don't see the harm in looking, I'll even comment on it and so would various SO's that I've had. Xindra is correct, he's with you for a reason, doesn't mean he can't also find other people attractive.
     
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    Dont girls look just as much, but guys just dont really notice like girls notice with guys.
     
  6. BlazinBlazer Guy

    BlazinBlazer Guy Witness to The De-Evolution of Mankind.

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    He can look all he wants; if he touches, THEN you can get pissed.
     
  7. Avalon

    Avalon There is no pleasure in having nothing to do; the

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    I agree, It should make you feel good about yourself. He looks at these attractive women and he still chooses you... :dunno:
     
  8. big 1

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    I think his behaior is normal, to a point. If he checks out girls constantly, and compliments them more than he compliments you, to the point where it effects your self-esteem, THEn it becomes an issue. So if its just an occaisional, "shes hot" then let it pass. But if it gets to the point where your needs feel neglected, speak up.
     
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    sounds like you're over reacting and he doesnt want to admit it because you make him feel like his natural feelings are wrong.
     
  10. sneaky

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    depends on what exactly he did. It could have been taken the wrong way.

    Sidenote: Are you on FTJ?
     
  11. BlazinBlazer Guy

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    :werd: Now if he were slick, he'd check her out and say to his wife, "Hey honey, look at that hot waitress over there! Ample breasts, tight ass, a damn fine looking woman. Too bad she's still got nothing on you!"

    I'd be willing to bet he'd be getting sex twice a day for a week after that :bigthumb:
     
  12. titsmcgee

    titsmcgee New Member

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    forgive me but whats FTJ?
     
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    johnnywadd start me up

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    face the jury
     
  14. johan

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    Key question: Did he do this kind of behaviour before your marriage? would this be considered 'normal' behaviour for him?



    And now for the analysis:

    Is this pretty common behaviour? Yes it is.
    This is simply what guys do, they are genetically programmed to look at attractive females.

    Now the smooth ones, will do so discreetly, maybe a quick glance, and definitely not act like a drooling pig. That is insulting to you and certainly betrays a lack of class on his part.

    However the fact remains that almost all guys, even the class acts, will have a quick look at their surroundings.

    Now YOUR job, as a woman, is to realize that all men do it. He wouldn't be a red blooded male if he didn't.

    IF he was being crass or openly gawking, you have a right to smack him on the head. And then leave it at that.

    Otherwise, shut up about it, because if you're flipping out about a subtle look, then that says less about his normal male tendencies, and more about your insecurity. You might as well be mad at the sun for rising every day.

    So that's that.



    And ps: If he was a drooler before you married him, well, you married a drooling pig and you ought to have known that.
    Help him change, instead of becoming pissed at him. Get it?

    Marriage is a partnership. You HELP each other, instead of get royally pissed, and demand him to admit that he was wrong and you are right.
    Partnership. Work on it together. As a team.

    Good luck.
     
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    Just because you're on a diet doesn't mean you can't look at the menu :)
     
  16. Toasty

    Toasty Naked people have little or no influence on societ

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    We all look. You're ok.
     
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    Yes, they do.

    I've been married over 10 years and the whole time my wife has pointed out asses or boobs or bodies for me to check out. But I have her ring on, and hold her hand, and go home to her every night.
     
  18. Lucky Penny

    Lucky Penny Mr. cut me some slack cause I don't wanna go back,

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    He married you hon- he comes home to YOU every night. When that changes, THEN worry..
     
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    No worries, I'd say. He's with you, he married you, he goes home with you. Obviously you have something that trumps all of them.
     
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    Looking is fine. If you guys can't joke about that sort of thing, then maybe you shouldn't be married?
     
  21. jmezz

    jmezz layin in bed stretchin my pumped quads for hours

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    It doesn't matter where you get your apetite, as long as you come home for dinner.
     
  22. Cerridwen

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    Have you bothered to look at your av or your name lately? :hsugh:
     
  23. titsmcgee

    titsmcgee New Member

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    nope
     
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    You are a very self-centered, attention thriving, selfish woman. I'm sorry.
     
  25. titsmcgee

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    ok- so i don't care if he looks- i learned that it is normal for guys to do that whatever- i can deal. but wouldn't it be common courtesy for husbands and boyfriends to acknowledge it and re assure their love just to make us feel better? thats all i asked of him after dinner (with the in-laws) but he was defensive which i expected because i didn't probably approach him right--- didn't think it would take an hour for him to finally admit he was even checking her out. i have come to the conclusion its easier for me to overlook it from now on.
     

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