I've been with my girlfriend for a long time now and we talk about getting married every now and then. It's pretty important for her, both because of the symbolic nature and because she wants her parents/family to see it. But for me, it's a little embarrassing to say yet very true: marriage just doesn't seem very important in a relationship where both people are not religious and are dead set on never having kids. So I can never get excited about planning it. It's not like I want to cling on to bachelorhood or anything. I just don't feel it makes any difference (other than legally) to me whether there is an official formal wedding/marriage. There would be absolutely no change in my lifestyle nor attitude. And yet there's all this stuff to plan if I don't want to appear like a weird person and get into arguments, it's a hassle. Does this make sense?