I'm at a loss where to start, But my wife everything i suggest something, she thinks I'm trying to control her. Example. I've lost allot of weight and shes diabetic and has finally decided (3rdtime) she wants to lose weight. I asked her if she wanted my help. She said yes and when I start helping her she says she can do it herself. But everytime she does it herself she fails. She at a unhealthy level. I don't want to watch her die in front of me. I told her this. I mean examples are not keeping candy/ice cream around the house as I will eat it when I'm depressed. But I've just kept it out of the house to lose weight. Every time I say something to her it gets twisted around, Then the next day she comes up apologizing but its hurting me. I told her to get the fuck out of my house the other night because she started to yell at me when i tried to talk to her about finances. (She's reckless money wise). She always tells me shes going to change all the things I've wtalked to her about. She does a great job at the start and just don't follow threw as with everything major in her life. She has a college degree butw on't work in her field because she thinks shes no good. She went to dental school and dropped out a week before the end. She is on antidepressants before them things where way worse. I'm just so frustrated, It had me the point 3 months ago I had my gun in my mouth. I hate the feeling of such helpless I can't do anything else but give up. We just fight so much lately but we used to get along so well. This is my second marriage, My first marriage went pretty south. Long story there.