I am married, but I think it was a mistake. We had a child out of wedlock and then I was somewhat threatened to get married by her divorced/remarried parents and her. My feelings for her are that fimiliar phrase, " I love you, but not in love with you". We butt heads constantly and tend to live our own seperate lives. She works (EMT usually 24hrs at a time), visits her mom out of town, and rarely sees me, but she complains about not spending time with me. All this is on her own will. I myself have my last semester of college, undergrad research, fraternity business, a part-time job, and usually watch my daughter between all of these because of her working. I have also found that living with her that her cleanliness is slim to none. I have actually seen dirty/clean needles on her bedroom dresser and dirty diapers left on her night stand and floor by her bed. This is just disguisting in my opinion and have confronted her several times about it. There are other things, but in my opinion those are the worst. Also total lack of interest in sex with each other. I am not sure it has to do with the birth, but after that it has gone down hill and is now to once in awhile (WELCOME TO MARRIAGE!). Well I have met another girl, I have known her from high school and just got back with her recently and have done a few things, but nothing that far yet. She knows about my situation and says I need out. Of course in her favor, but over the time span we have butted heads and talked about changes nothing has changed. Maybe for a week or two, but back to the same ol story. I am just in need of some opinions. I have talked to all the people close to me. Your thoughts? Cliff notes: Marriage not going well. Lack of interest in both parties. Habits are gross. Met someone from past. What to do?