MIL Marriage and the Military

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  1. snoodles

    snoodles New Member

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    This question doesn't really pertain to me quite yet, but it is something I've often wondered, would y'all recommend getting married prior to an overseas deployment or after a deployment?

    My initial response would be after the deployment so you can see how your SO handles it, but I figured I'd throw it out there to see what experiences everyone has had.
     
  2. Abomb

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    this issue is keeping me on the fence of whether or not I am going to go in... and time is running out for me until I graduate.
     
  3. Julius

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    BAH and family sep are pretty cool
     
  4. WildBull

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    marriage and the military = fail
     
  5. Abomb

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    this is what i am afraid of :hs:
     
  6. Casino

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    I've heard too many horror stories. I only plan on doing 4 years active duty when I graduate from college. I'll probably just wait to have any serious relationship until after I'm out.
     
  7. Julius

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    or you can fuck bitches while you're in
     
  8. spook

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    That's the right way to think. Sometimes I wish I wasn't involved with the girl I'm with now because of an upcoming deployment.
     
  9. Abomb

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    i hear ya....
     
  10. Casino

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    That is true. I won't have to deal with any relationship issues when I'm away, that will take a lot of stress off from what I hear, and then if I'm horny I'll just fuck someone.
     
  11. Bacardi 151

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    The military puts a huge strain on any relationship. Most of the guys I know who went in married are no longer married. :hs:
     
  12. greenpillow

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    LOLz. I am going to agree with Inforpics. (no suprise there) I am going on our 6th year.. we have beat all odds.. however we do not go to bars.. he has his hobbies and I do not really get along with other military wives. I would go out on a limb to say the military is no different the any other realationship because of the simple fact of how horrible divorce rates are on the outside.

    I would think it has alot to do with honesty. Most people are not honest so lies catch up sooner or later.
     
  13. nsxrebel

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    Why do people feel they need to get married? specially so young. Are you that insecure? Odds are your marriage is gonna fail, specially if you are young. Divorce rates for those under 25 yrs of age is like 90%. That's just in general, now add the stresses of military life, it's just that more difficult. Chances are one of you, if not both, will cheat. You risk losing lots of time and money in a marriage. Divorce lawyers, settlements, etc..

    Now I'm sure it's all fine and dandy for those lucky few that it actually works out for. I bet it takes alot of work, effort, and compromise (you losing your freedom) to make a marriage work. I'm not saying you can't have a gf, but just take your time. Live with your SO for a while, get to actually know her, her good and bad habits. That way there won't be as many surprises in the future. In the long run, that BAH/SEP pay is not worth it, if you're not committed.

    Stay single, do what/who you want, when you want. Have fun, see the world, travel, kill hajis, kill babies, rape womenz, kick puppies off cliffs, drink, get laid, enjoy life.
     
  14. brackac

    brackac Fuck all of this. OT Supporter

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    I was 23 and my wife was 21 when we were married. We are on our way to 12 years of marriage come this September. Stats don't tell you everything.
     
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    What freedoms have I lost? I can do what I want when I want to do it.
     
  16. nsxrebel

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    I did say that odds are his marriage will fail. That's a fact. I didn't say it was guaranteed his marriage will fail. You are an exception. You are lucky, and more power to you. I'm sure it's not only luck, but alot of effort on you and your SO's part.

    That's what you think. :mamoru: Bottom line is you WILL have to compromise with your SO. You WON'T be able to do what you want, when you want. Not all the time, at least not without some form of repercussion.
     
  17. Ranger-AO

    Ranger-AO I'm here for the Taliban party. Moderator

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    edited to prove a point.

    You just described every single person in the world. Married or single.
     
  18. TRN

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    It greatly depends on the individuals and the base strength of the relationship.
     
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    I'm kind of in the same boat... Things are finally starting to get moving with this one girl I've known for a longgggg time and I'm not even depd in yet (taken my physical and goin under oath tomorrow) but like basic is a hell of a distance from here, and 4 years gone is just going to pretty much throw it out the window... But whatever I'll see how it pans out...
     
  20. nsxrebel

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    True. But let's be honest here, and tell him how it really is out there.
     
  21. kazimer

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    It all depends on the people involved

    My ex fiance broke up with me the day I deployed. It wasnt meant to be, better to find it out beforehand rather than while married.
     
  22. Jason H

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    Lucky :hs:

    I stopped my enlistment with the Canadian Forces as Infantry because of getting married. Ironically enough we might be on the chopping block soon enough while I'm taken courses to get into Firefighting. Who knows, maybe get my training and put off actually getting in for going reserves first :run:

    Reservist/Fireman. It can be done.
     

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