SRS male view on females

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  1. Pringles

    Pringles New Member

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    Recently I was dumped by my ex. It seems the longer I am away from her the less I think about her and more about talking with other chicks. The more I see her the more I feel connected on some level. She has shown me little signs of connection and had an instant rebound after cheating on me twice and dumping me.

    From that experience I seem to ask all females what they are doing and when. It's like I drill them on there next 24 hours. I feel that I must know where they are as if I dont trust them or something like I didnt trust my ex. Will this ever go away? Should I stop myself next time I start doing it. I didnt used to give a rats ass what other people were doing with there life, but lately I've become rather obstructive with it.

    Any thoughts?
     
  2. The Secretary

    The Secretary My domestic skills will rock your socks off!

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    Your being her father, stop it. I hate if my bf tries to keep tabs on me. Cheating can create trust issues and your going to have to find a better outlet for them. Ive been cheated on myself, and it makes me wary at points.
     
  3. Pringles

    Pringles New Member

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    I know I am. But that is what her cheating insued. My queston is what is the best way to stop this as it isnt fair to others because of her mistakes. Do I just stop or is there a better road to follow?
     
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    Hook yourself up with a counselor and say that you're having trust issues, and you don't like the person that you're becoming because of your lack of relationship trust.

    Seriously, even school counselors and the like can do wonders with this sort of thing. Talking through the problem and trying to dig underneath it can solve tons of problems that you dind't even know were there.
     
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    Replicant New Member

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    You are clearly making new women in your life responsible for actions that are none of their doing. By doing this you are applying pressure therefore pushing away women that could potentially become someone special.
     
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    PuppyCat O.T. Mom

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    :bowdown: Well said.
     
  7. Darketernal

    Darketernal Watch: Aria The Origination =)

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    Stop becoming a victim of the paranoid. My policy in this is clear 'innocent until proven guilty' , Everyone deserves a chance before you go into DIAF mode.
     
  8. Kirbys Autumn

    Kirbys Autumn Mrs. Kirby McSpic

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    Stop doing that. I've been cheated on before and I'm a female. It's not fair, it's hard to trust people again. But you have to accept that was she did was wrong and move on. Not all people are the same, there are some decent ones left that aren't cheaters. Just don't put pressure on them and try to know where they are 24/7.
     
  9. Pringles

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    Ya thanks guys. I just gotta let go. I was starting to lose myself because of all this stress I've been going through and I wasnt able to deal with it and took it out on others or hell if I know. But I'm gonna change this. I dont think I need a counselor, but once again thanks.
     

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