FRK low sex drive help!

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  1. murdermafia

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    so i used to take this anti-depressent and after i have a really low sex drive and me and my girlfriend are having problems in our releationship. most of the time i dont even want to have sex or even jerk off, im really scared that maybe i will lose it for good. please help. i havent seen a doctor yet cuz i fuguried that i would look here since everyone knows what there talkin about, instead of payin 40 dollars to talk to a doctor. i just need advice.
     
  2. BrokenHalo

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    had the same problem. really nothing you can do about it that i know of. doc told me right off the bat that it would happen, but i'd rather have a low sex drive than try to off myself because i think the world hates me and i suck.

    can't have your cake and eat it too i guess :dunno:
     
  3. Sam Gamgee

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    my bf has a super-low sex drive...

    I basically have to work him up to the idea for at least an hour... and sometimes I just don't have the energy for that much verbal foreplay, just to get him into the idea of sex.

    We've been lucky by him just starting to have sex even though he's not in the mood... and we just have extended foreplay until he's into it
     
  4. murdermafia

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    screw doctors...what do they know haha i took zoloft and it shot me down worse so i stoped taking it. i found my own way of dealing with my depression.
     
  5. murdermafia

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    ya it sucks i have no way of getting in the mood and it sucks balls
     
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    it takes awhile for the drug to get out of your system as well. so be patient.
     
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    Goto the doc and try a different med. Or try finding alternatives to dealing with the depression. I self medicate with copious amounts of ganja~
     
  8. Farva

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    all of them will do that to you , basically. stay active and keep you metabolism up and get your vitamins in order. Arginine is a Vaso-diolator used for circulation , but i found that it helps with the libido as well. try finding a fetish
     
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    i was on zoloft, and i completely lost my sex drive. about a month after stopping it, im back to normal.

    you can try differnt ones that might help...
     
  10. Eris

    Eris Yes please

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    I did the same, didn't like being medicated. I was told not to stop it immediately, but I did anyway.

    I had the fun combo of the anti-depressant and birth control lowering my sex drive. I barely even thought about it.

    Now I'm off all of it and .. good god I'm always yearning for it!
     
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    Eris Yes please

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    There are plenty of meds out there. I think most dull your sex drive.

    Wellbutrin XL claims not to have as harsh of a sexual side affect, perhaps trying switching to that. (But I think if you stop this one out of the blue it can cause seizures).

    There are options and though people here do know their shit, sometime talking to your doctor can help. If you don't wish to pay for a visit try and get in touch by phone.
     
  12. murdermafia

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    thanks everyone for all the info.
     
  13. Mr. Monopoly

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    and even the drugs that don't slow you down make it pointless. Viagras side effects include nausea and the squirts. Unless you do scat, how you gonna enjoy that?
     
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    Birth Control lowers your sex drive?
     
  15. xela

    xela So say we all!

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    I've heard of that happening a lot, actually. The first birth control I was on lowered my sex drive, but I immediately switched! lol
     
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    try ginsing, not the crappy shit. get ginsing stems from a plant put in your mouth suck on it for about 30mins.

    i know when im in a "funk" that seems to help :/
     
  17. copperkali

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    yup
     
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    Ya I just started taking wellbutrin. Prescribed by my doc to help me quite smoking. I now have no desire to have sex. I don't even want to jerk off. Good thing I am only taking it for a month to quite smoking. My wife is even feeling neglected because of it. I will be back to my regular self in thime though.:boink:
     
  19. purplebeast

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    How about adding testorome to your body? Either natuarally or artificially
     
  20. Devil

    Devil I have become my terror. OT Supporter

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    when i took welbutrin, i had a slight sex drive
    i took zoloft after because welbutrin made me more depressed and just about lost and sexual desires/urges
    i started taking lexapro a few weeks ago and my libido is back, too bad i broke up with my gf :wtc: :wackit:
     
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    yeah, my SO + i are having the same problem. but it sucks because these meds have helped him more than anything else, so i don't want him to switch but i do.
    + i didn't used to care so much, when i've had the same prob in other relationships, but i like him a lot more + am attracted to him more.
    i also feel bad cause i don't think he cares as much about it as i do.
     
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    This is exactly why I have NEVER taken meds, for depression, or anything really, beyond pain killers. I don't believe they do any good. Just in the responces here, in this very thread shows that anti-depressants (for the most part) only help the downward spiral.

    Look at it this way. You're depressed. Usually libido/sexual desire goes down automatically. You consult a doctor. The doctor prescribes some drug that's supposed to help. The drug helps for a bit, either because you believe it does, or because in a minority of cases it actually does. But there's side effects. One of those side effects is lack of labido/sexual desire. Your partner then expresses this lack of desire or lack of sexual contact. This bothers you. You try to regain your desire, but to no avail. This bothers you more, until you get depressed again, just this time is about your sex life, causing more problems, not just for you now, but for your partner too, causing a possible depression in them. The spiral continues.

    Before any one says I don't understand depression, I do, all to well. My mother was in a depression for a very long time, mostly psychosimati, I believe, though there were times that I could see it being ligit, due to circumstances. Yes, I too have first hand experianced a VERY deep depression, after my uncle died, who was also like a father, brother and best friend, I actually experianced what I feel was a lot like PTSD (Post Traumatis Stress Disorder), a form of depression, though this one effects more than just mood, it effects everything, including chemical balances. This went on for about 2 years, in that time I lived with my (now ex) GF. Though I really can't stand her or what she did to me (mind games and such), I do appreciate the fact that she was there. If she wasn't I probably wouldn't be here right now, to type this out.
    The point I'm taking a long way to get to is, that depression litterally is a state of mind, which effects your chemical balances, that cause depression. All drugs do, is try and remedy the symptom, not the cause.
    During that time, I had no sexual desire whatsoever, among other things, I still had sex, because well it seemed like the thing to do. I know I felt better after doing so, and wanted to again almost right away, because of the adrenaline and other chemical releases (the names elude me at this point), that happen during sex counteracted the imbalances I had. My GF at the time never wanted to more than once a night or morning sex. :(
    I know this won't work for everyone, but what worked for me, was once I realized that there actually was something wrong, I decided to do something about it. I did a lot of reading on a few different things that I was lacking in my life, relationships, both sexual and plutonic, joy and a few other things.
    What happened was I essentially thought myself better, to the point where I worry very little about things and stress is low.
    I can't exactly describe how I did it, or what I thought, but I changed my way of thinking, my suroundings, my friends (mostly), and put myself in a better way of life.
     
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    I don't care what you say about not taking antidepressants... obviously you've never been on one, carpet.
    If you're in bad enough shape to need one, then you should take it. It kept me from slitting my wrists, and I'm not a whiny bitch just because I don't have much of a sex drive anymore. I'd rather be alive and happy with myself than horny and not wanting to live.

    And theres another thing to it as well everyone... sex isn't everything in the world, so broaden your fucking horizons.
     
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    If you noticed, I said that what I did may not work for everyone. :rolleyes:

    No, I have never been on an anti-depressant, nor any other mind-altering drug, nor will I.
    I was in bad enough shape that others would have told me I needed to take drugs, in fact IIRC a few people did. Did I want to slit my wrists? Drive into on-coming traffic? Fall off a bridge? Go for a long walk out in remote wooded area up north with no food and no way to sustain my life? Sure, I wanted to do all of those things, thinking things would be easy/better for me, even for those around me. You know what kept me from going through with it? Thinking about my Grandparents and how they'd feel. Also thinking about how my GF at the time would have to deal with moving all my shit and getting a new apartment, whne she already had enough to deal with.
    I'm pretty sure I said in my previous post, that I had a LACK of sexual desire, so I really wasn't horny, per se, but I would have sex and masterbate, because it seemed right.

    No sex isn't everything, but has been scientifically proven along with people just reaping the benifits of sex, to help reduce the signs and drawbacks of depression, due to the chemical releases during sex and sexual contact (with someone that is caring and usually best if the couple is in a long term relationship).

    Massage can also help with depression and other ailments.

    BTW, where's teh freaky?
     
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