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  1. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    with another guy :eek3:

    (Where i come from anywhere from a kiss to a lay is "hooking up")

    He told her how attracted he was to her and then he kissed her

    I think it's pretty cool that she can hook up with guys and still it doesn't change anything for me. At the same time it's also WEIRD. Back in the day (i.e., several months ago :rolleyes:)? There's NO WAY I would have been capable of feeling secure about a girl's interest in me if even she expressed attraction to another guy... let alone let a guy kiss her. Rationally I understood the concept: someone can enjoy themselves with other people in your absence and STILL feel the same way towards you when you show up in their doorway. But I didn't believe it emotionally.

    If you think about it, it's actually weird that it took me so long to get here.

    It's also pretty funny... I find myself feeling BAD for my lover because she declined to kiss him back because the guy who kissed her was not enjoyable. I don't want to deny her any of her fun, even by accident. Sadly though she is currently "left cold" when hooking up with another man... I think this is some kind of side effect of her being in love with me.

    I think that because it is the same for me.. it's been kind of a problem for me in terms of pick-up, because I do super-super-direct game, and while I CAN and DO flirt with people, it is JUST that - something to do. Emotionally, it leaves me cold, cuz I just want the girl I'm in love with to be there instead of the girl I'm flirting with.

    (On balance, I don't mind sacrificing game for the way being in love makes me feel. After all falling in love is one of the goals of game in the first place.)

    Anyways I just thought I'd update the vag on my backwards ways!! :noes:
     
  2. XaPU!M

    XaPU!M Active Member

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    So you are actually with this girl or it is an ex?


    And I have to try your logic, it seems kinda cool.

    Last night I TOOK OVER THE WORLD (And where I come from "taking over the world" means going to the mall)
     
  3. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    :rofl: I understand completely.

    In answer to your question, yeah, it's also nice that she's not my "GF"

    We are just two people in love. In an interesting attempt to keep everything really organic, we did without the defining or categorizing. No doubt it will all end horribly with tears, legal charges, and dead people strewn everywhere... but doesn't it always.
     
  4. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Doesn't really sound like a healthy relationship....but oh well if you're ok with it than fine (though by the sounds of it to me you are in denial and hate the idea of her really being with someone else).
     
  5. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    it feels VERY healthy.. but it's not for everybody
     
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    :rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl:
     
  7. Falconer

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    That's quite an interesting mindset. I couldn't do that.

    Wait.

    I couldn't do it with someone I actually liked or gave a shit about. I could do it with a random chick, but then I'd be worried about STDs, so I probably couldn't do it with her, either.
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    I understand. It feels really good though
     
  9. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    beer, i didn't mean to shut u down.. if u have any questions ask away
     

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