I just lost my oldest brother on 8/8/08 and received a call on 8/9 from my mom at 6:13am. I've never heard her sound like that EVER. He got killed in a car accident. http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/26165465/ http://www.wral.com/news/news_briefs/story/3369234/ It still seems extremely UNREAL even with the funeral that was on 8/16/08. There are several articles about him as well- all you have to do is search his name and several links come up. He had a very nice military style funeral with the Patriot Guard Riders as escorts to the church(they stood guard outside of the churc and burial grounds.) They even have a blog about him. http://www.patriotguard.org/ALLForums/tabid/61/view/topic/forumid/123/postid/948720/Default.aspx I haven't really been able to talk to anyone verbally about it other than my little brother a few co-workers(I started back to work today) and my bf as I still either tear up or break down a bit. I'm the oldest and we were 2 years apart. His 30th b-day is on September 7th. The really screwed up thing is that he had us all prepared for him getting killed over in Iraq or Afghanistan. We never really worried when he was over in the States on leave or anything. It's just CRAZY. All the freaking people in and out of our house starting from 8am until around 9 or 10pm got a bit much for me and my little brother at times. The phone calls usually started at 7ish am I sit here at work today not wanting to talk to really anyone or answer the phone (I let it go to voicemail most times) If you have any advice I would love for you to share. Thanks.