I cross-posted this in the vag, where I know people. To give some background, Alli is my ex-gf whom I broke up with at the beginning of the year, but am still on good terms with. Her father passed away one month ago. I'm looking for advice as to what I should do at this point. Thanks. .... so I don't know what to do. I randomly ran into Alli again tonight and she was stoned out of her mind, she couldn't even talk to me (remember she had been smoking when I picked her up last night too). Entirely different personality, I wouldn't have ever recognized her. I had talked to her friends about my concern last night, and they kinda blew it off. Then they saw it first person tonight and admitted she was acting really weird. They also said they knew she was doing other drugs, such as xanax and adderall (I knew about the adderall). She was such a different person, it was upsetting. I'll say she comes from a city notorious for drug abuse. I realize people deal with the death of family member in all sorts of different ways, but we can all agree drugs aren't the answer. Her friends don't seem to care enough to do anything. I genuinely am concerned for her. I've seen so many friends fall into this lifestyle, and half of them are in jail or juvy right now. It's a slipperly slope and I feel like I should step in. I'm am so close to calling her mother tomorrow. She knows who I am, and I can say with 100% honesty that I am only looking out for her. People think so short-term, but where will this lead 6-months, 1 year from now? I hate this. I can't just sit back and watch her throw her life away to drugs. I know I probably will get shit for stepping past my bounds here, but I'm taking this 100% seriously. This is the one person in my life that I genuinely care about and it is heartbreaking to watch her start down this path.