First off, greetings Asylum. First post here (and by my post count you can see its one of very few). I need some help, my girlfriend of just over 18 months whom i love very much has decided she wants 'time to think'. We aren't broken up but basically. I need to win her back. Back story: She went to school in FL (originally from RI), was engaged for just under a year, fell out of love and moved back here. Got a job where i work and we started hanging out. We clicked almost immediately even though we are very different people. About 6 months in to the relationship (july 08) i left her a note next to the bed we were sleeping in that said 'i hope you slept well, i love you' and went to work. she showed up about 2 hours later (thats her schedule) with puffy eyes like she had been crying. we snuck off for a moment to talk and she said she loved me too but was too afraid to say it. fast forward 13 months later and i have a problem with one of her friends(trying to get in her pants). i told her 3 weeks ago now that i couldn't go on feeling the way i felt, we talked off and on for about a week and i apologized for everything i did, i had quite the awakening. Now she tells me she needs some time to think and feels 'nothing at all', not just about me but in general, which i'm sure is because of me. We talked a few more times and both decided we will NOT be seeing anyone else while she sorts out her feelings. one of the things she said was wrong with 'us' is that she doesn't feel anything because we have fought so many times and i went crawling back so many times that shes immune to my words. i admit absolutely everything wrong with our relationship is my fault but like i said, i have absolutely had an awakening and want, more than anything in this world, to be with her for the rest of our lives (we previously said we would eventually get married and grow old together). she said she still loves me but needs to time. am i screwed? i sent her flowers at work today in front of everyone (we kept our relationship away from the work place for the most part) and she thanked me but said nothing else. i still say good morning to her in a text message (since i am at work sometimes 5 hours before she is), i still call her every night to say goodnight and tell her that i love her. what do i do? how can i 'sway' her decision in 'our' favor? sometimes i feel like i should just let her come to me, but that seems likely to end up with her getting over 'us' and not at all what i want. she honestly does not know what she wants and has no interest in anyone else from what i can see. the power of OT, solve my problems!