Ok so back in January my ex decides that she wants to be back in my life after I have been pretty much blowing her off for the last 2 years. We went out in high school and part of college, altogether about 3.5 years. The relationship got stale so we just ended up seeing different people, I never agreed with the way she was partying and going on with her life so I pretty much just stopped talking to her. Well this January she got in touch with me after breaking up with her bf and told me how much she realized that she had something good with me and I knew how to do all the right things blah blah blah....We basically started hanging out and now its a regular thing that we double date with her cousin and her cousins bf. Now heres the catch, we aren't together and its annoying me now. I have talked to her twice about it and her response is that she isn't ready for a relationship right now because she is very stressed about school, which she really is. I talked to her twice about it but its been about a month since the last time I bought it up. The last time we talked she told me that I am the only guy she gives her time and attention to and anyone else is basically an aquaintence, since then she gives me alot of her time, going out to dinner, coming over for movies, going to the gym 4 times a week, she even wants to come over and cook dinner one night. It has me so confused because she spends a lot of her time with me but doesn't even entertain the thought of getting together. I really don't want to just cut her off but now I'm getting impatient with her. What the heck is she doing? What can I do to get something jumpstarted between us? Sorry this is a novel, but this is my first post and this is really really bothering me. Thanks for all your responses and help. Cliffs: 1. Gf of 3.5 years starts talking again. 2. Double date and spend lots of time together. 3. Not actually together. 4. WTF.