Here's a little background on us. . . First off, our relationship started off in probably the least socially acceptable way possible. She'd been dating my best friend for around 14 months and I had been dating her best friend (who she had set me up with) for around 6 months. We ended up breaking up with them in the same week and then hooking up just a couple days later. The three or four months before we started dating (and thus the last three or four months of our previous relationships) we were best friends. We spent more time with each other than with our SO's, we always had people ask if we were dating, and even people who knew (and were good friends with) all four of us would publicly say how we would make a better couple than who we were currently with. Let me clarify and say that we never cheated, we never even considered dating until we were both single. Honestly, the thought never crossed my mind beyond the point of "Wow, she's amazing. Too bad we couldn't ever be together. . ." I respected that and was trying to work things out with my (now ex) gf. But after we broke up with our respective SO's we both talked about it and realized that we should see what happens. We both knew we would end up regretting not finding out what could be between us. Things moved pretty fast with us, we really fell for each other and got pretty serious. We got 'promise rings', but not the way you would normally think of them. Our rings just meant that we were committed to each other but that we understood we were fighting an uphill battle based on where we are in life and where we are headed. Basically, no expectations but I really do love you right now. So it started out with us seeing each other 1-2 times a week, and then it moved to 3-4 times a week, and eventually we were seeing each other every day. We took the physical side of our relationship at a fairly slow pace. We both knew that rushing into the physical before we are comfortable with the emotional can really screw up a long term relationship. After we started having sex, things really changed. We became attached. We started losing who we were individually and became like a single unit. We didn't really notice that much because we were caught up in the moment, but we just came to realize it. My gf's mother really enjoys controlling my gf's life, and she is beyond the age where her mother should have this kind of influence. My gf is a very strong-willed person, but that doesn't change the fact the she always believes every word her mother tells her. Her mother told her recently that we were getting 'too attached' and that she was 'worried' about her. Also, she told my gf that her 'family misses her' and that our relationship has 'stolen who she is'. She pressured my gf to break up with me, but thankfully my gf decided to try and alter our relationship rather than end it. Now, we're 'starting over.' I think this sounds like a good idea. We're going on our 'new first date' when she returns from vacation, and we're taking it slow. There won't be anything physical before we would if we were in a completely new relationship. The rings are gone, but they may come back if we ever get to that point in a relationship again. I'm not so much afraid of losing my girlfriend as I am of losing my best friend. Do you all think the 'starting over' thing will work? Any tips for how we can get around the over-attachment stuff and have a healthy relationship? We aren't going to go on long, if at all, if things don't change. So I have 10 days to plan my counterattack. OT, help me!