Long distance relationships?

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  1. Dnepr

    Dnepr Guest

    Do they ever work?

    Im thinking right now about few things. Should I even try or will it be just an exercize in frustration?
     
  2. RedVsBlue

    RedVsBlue Penguins > *

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    Depends on the situation and how long you have been together. Most of the time they do not work however. It sucks too. The feeling of being away from the person you love all the time.

    The only time where I see it working out alot is military families/relationships. Those people will tell you its certainly not easy, but they make it.
     
  3. Sionell89

    Sionell89 I grew up when I wasn't looking

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    I've done LDR at various times in my life. It got to be wearing after a while and it was tough when we got back together, because it took some time fitting the other person back into our lives.

    Where there is a will, there is a way.
     
  4. AmCo

    AmCo Haters goin' Hate

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    2 1/2 yrs + 2 1/2 together but not without a label. Im bitter now so dont do it!
     
  5. Two toys

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    i think if you keep that person in your life and treat them as a SO but dont label yourself it will work out better.. also depends how far and how much you need physical contact.
     
  6. Dnepr

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    Right.


    Ill keep that in mind.

    Distance is huge, literally half way around the world.
     
  7. beanolo

    beanolo It does a body good!!!1

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    Wow. you hit it on the nail with this one. My bestfriend turned girlfriend left for the military for 4 years, did long distance for 3 of those, it was definitely rough, but we got through it and continued on :) It's a true test of your patience/love to see if you are willing to commit and wait for this person.
     
  8. lauren

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    did 1800 mile long dist for two years. for me, if it was a choice of doing that or breaking up when we moved...im happy with the choice i made, even though it didnt work.

    its not easy, but nothing ever is. goodluck.
     
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    i did a long distance relationship with a girl...3000 miles. it sucked ass, i dont recommend them.
     
  10. Yes have some!

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    My wife and I dated 5 1/2 years long distance. We have been married almost 3 years. If you are going to do it you need communication, patience, and above all...trust.


    Good luck!
     
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    Don't do it. You're setting yourself up for disappointment. Sure some LDR works out, but most dont. The longer the distance and the time together the harder the breakup is. I learned that after 4 years of a LDR. When you find pussy closer to home its hard to resist.
     
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    D A guiltless state of self awareness.. The process

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    Mine is going well. He's set to move up here in two weeks.
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    Halfway around the world is a bit much. :sad2:
     
  13. Original

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    Mine is falling apart :ugh2:

    Before you start, you better make sure you two are definitely mature enough to handle the situation and you will stay committed. The number one killer of Long Distance Rel. is when the loniless leads a person to seek out a mate closer to home. As long as you two are faithful, they can work ;)
     
  14. wilyfem

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    Quoted for truth
     
  15. R6_rider

    R6_rider Pure Awesomeness

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    mine is also fallin apart.
    u need trust and communication
     
  16. AmCo

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    dont do it!!!!!!!!!!!!!
     
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    I'm in a long distance relationship now, though we see each other every weekend. It's only a 2:30 drive to see each other so it's not that bad. I think with communication it can work. My brother was dating his now wife for 3 years with one in LA and the other in Jersey. It can work as long asthe communication is good. And if there's even an ounce of mistrust in the relationship I highly doubt it could work.
     
  18. No not really most of them fail

    But if you've know this gal for a while and you two are serious about wanting to make the relationship work then yeah there is a chance that things will work out for the best but I would never recommend getting serious in a LDR unless you have know her for at least 1 YR.

    One of the The hardest parts about being in a LDR is location eventually you or her will need to relocate and that imo will not be an easy thing to do I mean you/ or her will have to leave your state take everything you own pets stereos blenders etc etc quite your job leave your friends it wont be easy, But if you've know this gal for a while One year minimum and have strong feelings for her heck yeah I'd say go for it. Most people in LDRs break up # 1 cheating and # 2 location the worst part about breaking up over location is that you two will always have feelings for one another and both you and her will be wondering for the rest of your lives if yous made the right decision.
     

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