SRS lonely at college. have no friends.

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  1. paranoidandroid

    paranoidandroid New Member

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    im a 24 year old college student that just came back to school after dropping out two years ago. i know absolutely no one in school anymore because all my friends have graduated. has anyone been in this position before??? How did you meet people?? thanks.
     
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    Talk to the people in your classes, especially the smaller classes. You guys have something in common(being in the same class), so that could be an easy conversation starter. :bigthumb:
     
  3. Study groups are always good. I assume you're not in dorms as you are 24...but if you are, leave your door open and say hi at least to people on your wing/floor. Then maybe strike up a conversation and see what they're into.
     
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    im not in the dorms. and talking to people in class isn't that easy. what do i say? "hey this class sucks, you wanna hang out some time?" It just seems awkward as hell.
     
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    If someone in class told me they liked David Bowie, we would be halfway to becoming bffs.
     
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    It isn't easy, but would you rather sit around and do nothing? Plus, it's not like you're gonna be that blunt. It's a gradual process, so just talk to them a few times during class then mention getting coffee, a bite to eat, studying together, etc.

    GL!
     
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    man, i guess i really have to work on my social skills. asking someone in my class to go get coffee seems sooooo weird. it just seems so uncommon since i have never heard of someone doing that before.
     
  10. Just talk to them in class if you are that uncomfortable about it...baby steps...not like monster leaps. You talk to them in class and I'm sure you'll become friends if you both think each other are chill. Talk about class, the homework, how annoying/cool the teacher is.
     
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    Like Penis Mightier(hahaha Japan US Relations), it's all about baby steps. If the situation seems right, then ask the person/people to hang out sometime.

    Also, practice makes perfect. I used to feel the same way you do, but I forced myself to be more social, and it only got easier over time. Just be confident in yourself and force yourself to talk to people.
     
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    it just seems so weird to practically ask a guy out on a date.
     
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    You are not a guy? Then let me revise my post to say that anyone who told me in class that they like David Bowie would be already 50% of the way there to being wife material.
     
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    Wait, you're a girl? If you're in Cali, you wanna hang out? :cool:

    haha just kidding. If anything, being a girl should make it easier. Like we've said, just make small talk and get to know people. Everything else should come naturally. Don't think about it too much, you'll only psych yourself out!
     
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    no, im a guy. thats why it seems weird to ask a guy to hang out, because it sounds like a date.
     
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    hahaha okay, I see where you're coming from. Don't rush it and just go with the flow. Chit-chat, and who knows, you might get invited to a party or something. Maybe getting coffee isn't the best idea though...hahaha

    Do you go to a big or small school? What state?
     
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    I'm older than you and in undergrad. I know the feeling. The easiest way to get friends is to either do intramural sports or take some sports classes (soccer, badminton). Find clubs, either through your major or stuff that you're interested in and join them.

    I imagine you live off campus so try to hang around after classes instead of taking off all the time. Study outside or maybe in the restaurant area.
     
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    yeah, i definitely need to join a club or two. any idea how i find out about clubs around campus. im a business student, so i assume theres business clubs or something??? haha.
     
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    I would go to the Associated Students (sometimes called ASI) section of your college's website. They'll have clubs and likely intramural sports there. The business department page may have business related clubs listed.
     
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    join a volunteer club? always easy to meet people while doing good work :)
     
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    you are 24 years old and aren't getting any younger. You need to stop this shit and grow up. Force yourself to
     
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    I'll be 23 and coming as a Sophmore or Junior to a traditional college learning setting next year, so I can relate.
     
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    who cares if you have "friends" in college? don't you have friends outside of school? i don't keep in touch with any of my friends/roommates in college. perhaps once a year if that and that's on facebook. not that we weren't good friends then cause we were, but people drift apart.

    now if you want friends for study groups or whatever, then that's a different story.
     
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    Talk to people in your class. I know some classes do Ice Breakers to get the social cloud rolling.

    Also, try going to school events and join club activities. You can also volunteer as well.
     
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    If I were you, I'd not create the opportunity but let the opportunity create itself. Don't rush it, it will happen. As long as your body language allows it, be open and approachable, someone will say something in your direction, pick up on it and start chatting. Then next class say hello to that same person and engage in another conversation.
     

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