Lets talk about the ever so "forbidden" practice of breaking people up...

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  1. beckington

    beckington New Member

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    Long story short...

    About 3 years ago, I knew a girl who was extremely into me. Well, at that point in time (being 18 years old) I wasn't into dating anyone, but rather just trying to have sex with girls.

    We lose touch, but I always felt that it should have been myself and her together.

    A couple years pass (I would find myself thinking about her from time to time), and I run into her at the mall one day with her boyfriend. I didn't recognize her. She was cute before, now she's just absolutely flawless and OMFG looking. After we chat for a few minutes, I find myself thinking about her more and more everyday.

    It's been about a year since I saw her last and in the past couple weeks, shes been texting me and sending me messages on myspace. Harmless quirps to try to get me to hang out.

    Well yesterday, I'm at the bank and she walks in...with her boyfriend. She's looking phenomenal and he's looking like a fucking dirtbag. You can tell she's embarrassed.

    I go home and I text her. We arrange to hang out later that night (last night).

    We hang out and everything is fucking wonderful. Then she starts ranting and raving about how shes so ready to dump her boyfriend. She's telling me how they changed the past couple years and aren't the same people anymore. She's telling me how she's always had a crush on me, and wishes I wouldn't have left her in the first place.

    Should I feel guilty at all, breaking him and her up? I have no obligation to this kid, I don't even know his last name.

    I just want to be happy. :(
     
  2. uwofrost

    uwofrost New Denver Crew

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    Well... whatever you do dont make the first move... you need to have her do that. I would keep talking to her and have a nice flirty undertone to it all so that your interest is known. I personally would go for her in your situation. But i lean towards the darkside in things of this nature.
     
  3. beckington

    beckington New Member

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    Well last night, this was coming out of her mouth a few times:

    "If I broke up with him tomorrow, what would you do?"


    She's smart. She knows what she needs to do. :noes:
     
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    uwofrost New Denver Crew

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    Did you respond? if not send a text saying i would know when it happens... or you might have said that last night....
     
  5. antihero

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    1. i fucking hate that look before you leap shit. way to be pathetic.

    2. go for it. This kid is not your friend, you don't owe hime anything. As long as she breaks up with him before things go anywhere with you, no foul imho.
     
  6. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :rolleyes: I've given up on giving morally sound advice. Break them up, WTF do we care? Have fun when she fucks you over. She knows exatly what she's doing. If she really wanted you she'd dump her boyfriend. Not go home to him after hanging out with you and getting the attention she craves.
     
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    how do you know she went home? where did i say, i dropped her off? :naughty:


    She won't fuck me over. I'm far too important.
     
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    yeah, she knows she needs to shit or get off the pot.
     
  9. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    You aren't really breaking them up. If she cared at all about being with her bf then this wouldn't even be an issue. Sounds like she's just looking for an excuse to end things and you'll do for now. Don't be naive and expect to just jump right into a relationship with her though. She needs time to be single after being with someone for that long. Jumping from a long relationship right into a new one is never a good thing to do.
     
  10. yankeeschick14

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    this sort of happened with me and my bf...i had a crush on him for about 6 months before we started dating, but he wasnt doing anything about it so I started dating someone else. That lasted a few weeks before he was talking to me about how i needed to break up with this kid. I used the line "yeah, but I dont wanna be alone for my birthday" or some crap like that, and he said he would take me out for my birthday. I broke up with the kid the next day, and we've been together every since. Let her make the moves, but dont be coy about it...take advantage when she give you an opening because thats what she really wants.
     
  11. uwofrost

    uwofrost New Denver Crew

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    Just play your cards right so your in the clear no matter what happens...
     
  12. beckington

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    I just got a text:

    "I know I shouldnt say it but i cant stop thinking about you."

    :eek3:
     
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    uwofrost New Denver Crew

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    I would go with the good old i cant either and i wish i could say more but you still have a BF....
     
  14. chlywly

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    Quite frankly she doesn't sound like the greatest candidate for moral character, go for it however; it sounds like all FAIL with them already, but don't expect much in terms of relationship with her.
     
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    why do you say this, good sir?
     
  16. sassy2424

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    :werd:

    she said that her and her bf weren't working out because they had changed. not because she has the hots for someone else.

    You're just probably speeding up the inevitable.
     
  17. MattThom01

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    this will last about a week, she'll get tired of you, then start flirting with the next guy
     
  18. XaPU!M

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    Just tell her you can discuss it further when she is single again.

    All is fair in love and war. Don't feel bad for going after what you want.
     
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    :bowdown::bowdown::bowdown: Perfect Line to drop
     
  20. jonno

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    go for it
     
  21. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    I'm sure she's worth it. This is the guy who said "I met my wife" after he found a hot girl who liked Dr. Pepper and clam chowder...then they broke up and she was supposedly a drama queen who said she got an abortion.

    He's a great judge of character.
     
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  23. MattThom01

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    Another guy who needs to raise his standards. A girl who complains about her bf, but does nothing about it, is not someone I would want to be with. If you have a problem, fine, do something about it. Don't just bitch and complain. Or, at least if you're going to bitch and complain, bitch and complain and DO something about the problem.

    Think about it. The bf can't be THAT bad in her mind, otherwise, why would she stay with him?

    And I loved the comment the OP made about her being embarrassed by her bf (he could tell). Do you honestly think some self-respecting woman is actually going to hang out with someone she is embarrassed by? Nope.

    He's seeing a lot of what he wants to see, instead of what is actually there.
     
  24. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    you know if you break them up someone else will do it to you.
     
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