let it go or keep pursuing?

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  1. jonno

    jonno New Member

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    so this girls friend lets me know that she thought i was 'a cutie' when we had all hung out in a group awhile ago. i thought this girl was hott as fuck and had an awesome personality. i asked this girl out for dinner and a walk around the city a couple of nights ago. this is her reply:

    i asked her today if she'd like to get dinner either friday or anytime on sunday. her reply:


    red flags: 1) she mentioned how busy she was in the first message.
    2) in the 2nd message she did not ask me my schedule or try to reschedule the date.


    obviously i'm not going to wait around for this girl and not go on other dates. but i'm wondering if i should even bother contacting her again.
     
  2. jonno

    jonno New Member

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    also - if i had not known she found me attractive and didnt offer her number up i wouldnt even bother. these are the only reasons i'm confused.
     
  3. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    Maybe she is really busy...but yeah if you want to contact her again do it just once more and then give up!
     
  4. Bob Brown

    Bob Brown bewshit, bewshit, bewshit

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    I agree.

    the whole busy thing but then never suggesting another day/date or weekend for reschedule usually pulls a black flag, but I know how busy one can get, so might as well try again and then go forth and DO WORK or RUN RUN AND DONT LOOK BACK
     
  5. dumb_end_user

    dumb_end_user Sad Gus

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    Ask her when she IS free.
     
  6. jonno

    jonno New Member

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    will most likely do this but not until at least next weekend.
     
  7. dumb_end_user

    dumb_end_user Sad Gus

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    If she really did think you were a cutie then you two will work it out.

    This week, next week - it will either happen or it won't but you'll have your answer either way.
     
  8. ant.foste

    ant.foste New Member

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    Find a way to put the scheduling ball in her court, so to speak.
     
  9. outlaws

    outlaws C.R.E.A.M.

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    shes prob just busy, chillout
     
  10. jonno

    jonno New Member

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    facebook. yah yah I know. but I met her through my best friends ex and they've not on good terms to say the least. id never see her again.
     
  11. KindlyCuddly

    KindlyCuddly Irina Lazareanu

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    she's not busy, she doens't wanna go, don't bother
     
  12. BoomBoomBoy

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    You've made your intentions clear. Let her call you back.;)
     
  13. just_another_on

    just_another_on New Member

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    You should be fine.

    She said 'we'll work something out' right from the get go.

    Next time you'd talk I'd just ask her when a busy gal like her can make time for a gangsta nga like you.
     
  14. saosko

    saosko OT Supporter

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    ''well if you want to chill sometime this week, let me know''

    basically you giving her a time frame helps you out with distiguishing if she is truly interested or not. if she tries to contact you within the week theres something to pursue, if not.. move on.
     

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