Lecture VIA Text?

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  1. Boudreaux

    Boudreaux Active Member

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    Been dating this girl for about a month now, nothing commital, something just going with the flow, or so I thought.

    I called her saturday afternoon after i had been helping my roommate fix up his bike, and get it riding.

    I called her when we were done and said, "I'm going to take a shower, talk to my roomie to see what we're going to do, then i'll call you back" in what I thought was a nuetral tone, but she probably mistook my excitement about the bike running in being excited to see her.

    My roommate and I decide since we haven't ridden together in 8 months it'd be fun to ride out to dallas for dinner, just he and I. I call and tell her this and she seems fine with it. *read: i can hear in her voice something isn't sitting right with her, but she isn't going to bring it up, of course.

    So, we ride out to Dallas, and when i get there, and check my phone, i have this text waiting for me:
    "Hey, i don't want 2 put a damper on ur evening, but it was kind of shitty 2 call me, act excited about seeing me, and then completely cancel. I know your roommates been dwn and i hope he's feeling better. After a recent conversation we had and the lack of a resonse to my 'where r u 2 going' txt, it makes me wonder if u 2 r going 2 a strip club. I know we r not n a committed relationship, but i have 2 go with my gut. I don't even want 2 date a man that goes 2 strip clubs and would rather look at other naked girls than me."

    my initial response was

    :ugh2: :wtf:

    I then realized she had sent me a text after getting on the bike "where r u 2 going' which i obviously couldn't respond to due to being on the bike.

    so.

    I'm thnking this text was out of line a little bit, and pretty much a deal killer IMO. It isn't about the strip club, or the the fact she thougth we were going to hang out, but it being manipulative, passive aggressive, and just generally an indication of some trust issues.
     
  2. Abomb

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    she sounds annoying
     
  3. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Well I can understand a girl you just started dating being up that you canceled plans with her. That being said, where the fuck did the whole strip club thing come from? Did you go to a strip club? Sounds like maybe you two are not meant to be.
     
  4. Bob Brown

    Bob Brown bewshit, bewshit, bewshit

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    seriously............if the first thing her mind goes to is a "strip club", and then saying thts her dealbreaker...........that is too paranoid and while along the line of typical crazies reading too much into things...........I fear that this sort on thing will only escalate and be in a bigger scale as time moves on.

    Just evaluate where you feel and what you feel about your relationship with her and go from there.
     
  5. just_another_on

    just_another_on New Member

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    Shes clingy apparently. She also seems insecure if shes worried about you going to a strip club and acting the way she did.
     
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    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    :werd: If she was just hurt from being put off for the night, I get that. The jump from that to you being at a strip club is fucking huge though.

    Edit: I can even understand not wanting to date someone who goes to strip clubs. But assuming you're at a strip club without any reason? That's just bat shit insane. (Unless you actually were at a strip club, in which case she is very perceptive. :mamoru:)
     
  7. Boudreaux

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    I never made plans with her, i was waiting to take a shower and and talk to my room mate to see if we wanted to ride. I never said "hey get ready 'cause we're hanging out"

    the strip club comment came because i brought it up in casual conversation, asking her her opinion on it. And i told her mine. They aren't important enough to me to upset someone i'm dating over.
     
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    I told her, verbatim, that my roomie and i were going to ride out to dallas for dinner. which means she thought i was also lying about what i was doing.
     
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    My bet is PMS. She'll be back.
     
  10. Boudreaux

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    today was supposed to be her last day on, actually


    damn, D7, with the 6th sense
     
  11. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Well it sounds like you left her hanging at any rate. Being like "hey I'll call you in a bit and let you know what's going on" at least implies that you want to do something with her. So it isn't a stretch for her to be disappointed when you say you won't. Again though, her reaction goes way beyond the normal disappointment a healthy person might feel.
     
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    lol I came back to edit and say she should blame it on the full moon. That's give or take 3 days :wiggle:
     
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    Sounds like she is insecure and clingy.
    If this is the first time something like this happened and you like her, I guess just set her straight.
    If it happens again, tell her off :dunno:
     
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    this isn't the first time i've gotten that vibe from her, but this is probably the 2nd time its been manifested
     
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    :rofl: she would too, she's that type of girl
     
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  17. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    UUUUUUUUUUGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH, I FUCKING HATE PEOPLE THAT CAN'T EVEN VOICE THEIR OPINIONS AND RELY ON TEXTING TO EXPRESS THEY ARE UPSETTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT!

    This girl sounds like a waste of time to me.
     
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    you just did that...sorta...:mamoru:
     
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    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    I WOULD YELL IN PERSON IF I COULD :rl:




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  20. Nomad

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    i can sort of see her side of the thing, but she should've known you couldn't have texted her while riding (what sort of bike do you have?)
     
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    :rofl: Well played.
    Seriously, good for dropping her. It would only go downhill from there.
     
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    reading that hurt my eyes
     
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    :rofl:
    I want to think she will reply to that :mamoru:
     
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