SRS Lame girl thing and no one to tell...

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  1. Gandin

    Gandin New Member

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    Alright, basically, there is this girl in one of my classes and she is absolutely beautiful. She's not really what I am usually interested in. I mean, it's her smile and her constant energy and her views on everything and how damn cute she is. Enough of that, I've always thought of her as this, but being hung up on another girl somehow made it impossible for me to look into it too much.

    So I had a dream about three nights ago. And surprisingly it wasn't about the girl I was hungup on, it was about this particular girl. It was her basically telling me I was the one, and then when I told her I'd wanted this for awhile, she cried. She cried tears of joy. And then I awoke to complete devestation, the dream felt so real, and I wanted it to be real. Obviously.

    So now she's on my mind too much. It bothers me because I over analyse everything. So I sometimes think shes interested, but other times I think she's just being nice, being herself.

    The worse part is that I can't tell anyone about it, because I feel like I'm burdening them with lame mini problems. Even to post here I had to think about it, it's so small and insignificant compared to other peoples problems. I guess I just needed to tell someone, because right now, all I want to do is talk about it, but I feel sorry for anyone who listens. I know I can't really think it through and figure it out. I want her, I just need to go for it. But thinking seems to occur instead. And it gets me no where.

    Thanks for reading.
     
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  3. katt_85

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    I think its the dream itself your looking to closly at , and not what it could possibly mean via symbolism and such.

    I have weird dreams ALOT! Tons. I find that alot of times in dreams, differnt people usually represent an idea of some sort. Use google and look up Dream dictionarys, and look up key items/ settings / themes in your dreams.

    Might make you feel better, and have some insight into why you dreamt what you did. As far as asking this girl out, who knows, it could happen. If thats what you really want, then ask her out and see how it goes.
     
  4. Darketernal

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    I can tell you this much, the chances that you get a dream girl is well, quite possible :)

    Just understand that she has her own free will, just because you dreamt about her doesn't mean she is the one for you. You just have to ask , and wait and see if it's a dream come true. She is the one who will tell you if she wants to go out with you or not. And never shooting is always miss, so you might as wel try, if she says no , ok with that cuz you can move on with your life then.
     
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    JUST ASK FOR CRAP'S SAKE, MAN!!!!


    The worst she can do is say no. You've got nothing to lose, and a total dream girl to gain....if you don't go for it, someone else will.
     
  6. johan

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    You should ask her.
    If that's too much of a leap for you, become better friends with her first.
    If that's still too much for you, becoming one of her better acquaintances.
    If that's still too much, try standing in the same room as her.

    Move your way up from there.
     
  7. Gandin

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    Haha. Yeah thanks guys. I know what I must do. I'll update you if anything happens. I'm thinking of maybe just inviting her to a movie or something. We aren't close, but she knows I'm alive, and we've had conversations. Maybe I'll just wedge my way into a friendship first. Meh. Thanks anyway, it helps to just get it out.
     
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    lol, great story i encountered about 5 million of those situations in high school and i could of havd a great time but took the 'blue pill' and nothing happened, i regret the fuck out of it, so i definatly would just ask, the worste that will happen, is you will get a ," i just wanna be freinds"...big deal right..........repost on monday and tell us how it went
     
  9. Gandin

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    In case anyone is interested I'm going to update quickly. I decided I should invite her to a group gathering so she would become more comfortable with me. And with my birthday right around the corner, I decided to throw a little party and invite her. She was somewhat hesitant (because she doesn't know very many of my friends). I invited the ones she does know, so she at least knew someone other than me. And she came.

    She was pretty shy at first, but eventually she became more sociable and we sat on the couch chatting about anything from politics to family life and such. Went and got bingo tickets and ended up just scratching those things and talking in my room for an hour or something. Found out she had to work in the morning. Early. She was going to drive home, but despite the fact she hadn't drank much at all, I conviced her to stay. She ended up crashing in my bed while we all continued to party upstairs. She is pretty shy, by the way, so this seemed like an enormous step for her.

    Anyway, I played with the idea of crawling in with her, but I decided against it and just slept on the couch in my room. At 7am I got up and woke her up before seeing her off to work. I thought it all went pretty well, and I'm pretty happy with what occured. It was a big deal for her just to be there, we'd only talked a handful of times, and each time it was a simple "how are you", "im good," type conversation.

    So, I think the next move is coffee, and maybe a movie. I guess I'll ask sometime next week. Ohh, btw, she sent an email thanking me for taking care of her.

    Yeah, yeah, I know its not much, but its something, and it was fun as hell.
     
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    should of crawled into bed with her... you could have always claimed it was the alcohol.:bigthumb:
     
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    :gtfo2: you peice of shit :squint:
     
  12. Gandin

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    haha. Yeah, I could have, I don't even think she would have really minded. But I just felt better about respecting her and the fact that she was vulnerable in my house, in my bed, and somewhat intoxicated. I was just stoked that she was open to that. I mean, she knew that I was drinking and that I could have used that as some kinda lame excuse, but she either wanted me to, or trusted the fact I wouldn't. Meh, I'm prolly just reading into it too much. We'll see if she's up for coffee in the near future. I think it's time to make it CERTAINLY known that I want more than a friend.
     
  13. Gandin

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    Update again. It's nice to get my thoughts down somewhere. Thanks guys.

    So I asked her to coffee last Tuesday, but she was sick and couldn't go. I again mentioned it on Thursday and she said that she was up for something on the weekend. I was happy. On Friday I decided to make some concrete plans with her. She was busy Friday night, worked Saturday morning and had to go to a dance Saturday evening. She worked all day Sunday and was going to a some dance party thing on Sunday night. Busy girl. But she figured she could fit me in between work and dance on Saturday. I was very excited.

    Sadly, that night I got an email saying she was sorry and that it was just too crammed afterall. I was disappointed, but there was really nothing she could do, and at least she had a good excuse and actually told me about it rather than just blowing me off. But she said, "perhaps I'll call you during the time I have set aside for homework". I was still pretty happy with that, as we don't know each other too well, and I'm just trying to get things off the ground. Well, sadly, she hadn't called by 6 and I knew she had dance at 8. I went online and there she was. I didn't ask if she was busy, we just talked for a few and she went for dinner. She couldn't call me afterwards because she had dance and had to get ready. So no phone call. What was worse though, was the fact that she obviously wasn't going to call me.

    Now, I know I'm looking into this maybe a lot too much... but it still sucked. I figured after breaking plans and telling me she'd probably call that she actually would. Though, maybe she was just really busy...

    Anyway, now I feel like I've been hounding her, and I don't want to be that guy whos always after her trying to make plans. Some people told me to just let her come to me when she's not busy, but I don't think she will. I'm not sure if she's interested, and she seems pretty shy too. So I dunno what to do. I don't want to hound, but I want to keep moving forward... any suggestions?

    Also, do you think sending her some kind of small candy thing on Valentines day would be too much? I'm thinking of just putting something on it like, "I hate to buy into commercialism, but sometimes you have to make exceptions." Me and her are both kinda against all that sorta stuff... so it would be casual and maybe get a point across? Wow... I'm lost, I haven't done this enough...

    Cliff Notes: Trying to make plans with girl. Continuously failing (she's sick, she's too busy). Says she'll probably call me after breaking plans. She doesn't. Feel like I'm hounding her. What should I do?
     
  14. k, props for not crawling in bed with her. funny to blame it on alchohol if you did, but definately more respectable for not doing that.
    as of now, i (personally) couldn't really tell you what to do. consider the options and choose, i suppose.
    say you decide to drop it. where do you go now? keep looking for someone who you enjoy spending time with same as other way round . . .
    say you pursue it . . .risky considering it's hard to tell what she wants. but love is risk, and the reward is worth it, if you know what the right reward is (and it's not ending up in bed with her btw). i would call her and if she seems to be giving you the slip again, then maybe try just politely asking if you are pushing things and she's really not interested in the first place. sure, it's tough to hear the answer you don't want to hear, but at least you know and you did it in a respectable manner.
     
  15. Juggernaut

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    leave her alone till she isnt soo cramped up. you dont want to make her think you're a psycho stalker
     
  16. Gandin

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    Once again with an update.

    I decided to let her be and mention plans again that Friday. I heard that she was interested in me from one of her friends on Wednesday and I was stoked. As much as I wanted/thought she liked me, I couldn't be sure, and to tell you the truth, I didn't think she would. Still, I waited until Friday, and instead of making plans, I told her that I'd be home most of the weekend and that she should give me a call if she got the chance. I didn't think she would, but I placed the idea in her mind. She wasn't into making a move, and I figured if I really wanted it, I'd have to phone her.

    To my surprise, she phoned me on sunday. Such a little gesture meant a lot. I knew she also wanted to move forward with the relationship, and I was happy to see her step out of her comfort zone to get us there. So on Valentines (as planned) I sent her candy during first period. She was very happy, and told me it made her day. I patted myself on the back. Since Monday, its been easier and easier everyday. She'll find me to invite me out to lunch with her and her friends, ect. So, it seems I am in.

    I decided to try plans again, and asked her today if she was doing anything on Friday. She works, but we don't have classes, so we are going to go out for lunch. Finally a chance to really get comfortable around each other and continue to push forward. From where I stand right now, everything is working out amazingly. I'm still stoked I even had a chance, and she is very happy (according to her friends).

    Basically, guys who don't want to make the move... just do it. Keep it slow if you want, but go for it and work at it. You may not have luck on your side like I have lately, but it IS with the risk. Thanks for reading.
     
  17. Kyoushu

    Kyoushu きょうしゅ

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    This doesn't really have much to do with your actual situation but reading what you said and reading what others have said. What is so wrong with being completely open and honest with someon. If I really like a girl I want to tell her. If I really want to spend time with her I want her to know that. Maybe that could be a little obsessive but if you really have strong feelings whats so wrong? (Thought I'd write this down because I was pondering it)
     

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