I've been in a relationship for 4 years. We've talked about marriage and he has decided he wants us to wait until he is out of school and has a "real" job. He is a planner. He doesn't want marriage or kids until his life is to his liking. I am on birth control which has made me gain a couple pounds and makes me have worse cramps. I really wouldn't mind waiting to have kids but I feel if it did happen now it wouldn't be the end of the world. I like sex. I also like making love. I believe they are different. I get neither. Maybe once a month I can get him to have sex with me. I try. I wear sexy things. I do sexy things to him. I just ask. I also try to get him to make love to me. Candles, music, but that never happens. I tell him I am upset and feeling unattractive and a little unloved. He doesn't want to have sex with me... rosie is enough for him. His reasons for not having sex are that he is really afraid i'll get pregnant (even though I am on birth control) and he is less attractive to me. I am a college student who is like ten to fifteen pounds overweight. I have to eat out a lot and sometimes dinner is a bag of chips in class. I'm told by my friends (guys and girls) that I am attractive. I have a big but and a pretty face. Its been like this for two years. I love him but I feel I need more. I want someone who makes me feel loved and attractive. I'm not ugly right?????? I'm thinking of leaving him. Am I overreacting?