SRS Just found out my ex is a lesbian now

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  1. Don't really care, but wanted people's opinions about it. This answers a lot of my questions as to why she was so difficult with me (a guy). Opinions, statements, anything.

    Ninja Edit: yes homework is getting that boring.
     
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  2. JemmaX

    JemmaX New Member

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    interesting...

    what are the things that are now clear? what are the signs that you missed and now see clearly?
     
  3. ledzep73

    ledzep73 New Member

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    She was a lesbian before, now she is just out of the closet.
     
  4. Why having sex with her was always a fight, why it took her so long to want to start having sex, why she always complained about hetero female things she did for me, and why she hated all guys except me, and her gay friend.
     
  5. Gregsaidthat

    Gregsaidthat "Individuality is the new conformity"

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    Yeah she has been a lesbian for along time and she is just now coming out!
     
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    SixSecrets New Member

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    What does it matter? She's your ex.

    Really.
     
  7. Gregsaidthat

    Gregsaidthat "Individuality is the new conformity"

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    Good call..
     
  8. It doesn't matter in the least, just answered a few questions for me that never made sense to me.
     
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  9. sportsjunkie

    sportsjunkie OT Supporter

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    I found out my ex was bisexual 5 years after we broke up.

    I found out he was seeing guys behind my back (on the DL)...I was kind of mad at first that he would hide something from me for so long but I'm over it.
     
  10. iamjeff6

    iamjeff6 UDARIS

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    how can she be a lesbian now

    she used to date you..so i guess that would make her Bi now

    correct?
     
  11. Gregsaidthat

    Gregsaidthat "Individuality is the new conformity"

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    only if she continues to date men. If not then that would make her a lesbian!
     
  12. iamjeff6

    iamjeff6 UDARIS

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    ehh i guess it all depends on personal definitions of lesbian and such
     
  13. Gregsaidthat

    Gregsaidthat "Individuality is the new conformity"

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    Ture your right with that one. In general she would be a lesbian.
     
  14. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    My best friend's ex girlfriend went straight to a girl after him and have been together ever since (almost 2 years now). He doesn't really care because she was a nutjob, but I can tell he sometimes thinks "what did I do to her?" Because she never showed interest in women ever before.
     
  15. That's exactly the same situation for me and my thoughts too.
     
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    no, many gay people try to force themselves to conform to societal norms. It makes her bi if she still feels sexually attracted to men
     
  17. busydoingnothing

    busydoingnothing A broken man too tough to cry

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    A crazy ex friend of mine dated a girl for about a year after she went through a bad breakup with her boyfriend. She realized how much she loved teh cock and went back to men.

    Chances are your ex is bi, unless she didn't enjoy sex with you at all. Who knows.
     
  18. She said she loved it, but who cares about her, she's not part of my life anymore, I thought this was humorous(sp?) more than anything else.
     
  19. Amanda Ann

    Amanda Ann New Member

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    Nah. Many individuals who are gay/lesbian date members of the opposite sex, and there's many reasons for it, such as "tricking" others around them and trying to convince themselves that their feelings for the same sex is just a phase. I've known people who have gone as far as marrying before they gave up the act.
     
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    One of my old bosses (guy) was married and had kids, but I think he always knew he was gay and just wanted kids.
     
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    Yup I actually have a professor like this. EVERYONE knew she was a lesbian, even her husband, but yet he still acted shocked when she divorced him after they had their daughter.
     

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