Just ended LTR this morning

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  1. IslanderOffRoad

    IslanderOffRoad Do you even lift kit? OT Supporter

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    4 and a half years.

    We've had great times and bad ones. In the end, we both were moving different directions in our lives. She wants to be involved in politics and feels she needs to be rooted in one place. I'm looking at grad school and like the idea of trying somewhere new. Both of us didn't want to be the person to tell the other that they couldn't do what they wanted with their life.

    I still love her, and this hurts. It was easier than I thought it would be because she had been arriving at the same conclusions I had. Its very easy to look at the cold hard facts and make a decision; throw in emotion and it sucks.
     
  2. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Fuck, man. :hug: I went through almost the exact same thing a few years back. I know it was the right thing to do at the time and she agreed, but to this day, I wish it hadn't been.
     
  3. just_another_on

    just_another_on New Member

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    Well, it seems like the two of you are understanding though.

    Although a couple may have infinite love for each other, if their idea's and dreams down the line dont work, it'll never happen.
     
  4. calisteph6

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    you are you saying you're available? :naughty:

    j/k, sorry, but hope this is the start of new experiences and better things for you. Just remember to grieve properly so that you don't bring your baggage from your last relationship into a new one.
     
  5. chica&buddies

    chica&buddies Active Member

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    :( that sucks... so much time invested with one person.

    :werd: tho. a relationship isn't going to work if two people want two different things in life. :o i usually refrain from getting into relationships if the guy isn't interested in moving and/or trying new things.
     
  6. Lucky Penny

    Lucky Penny Mr. cut me some slack cause I don't wanna go back,

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    :hug: I'm sorry Islander
     
  7. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :bowdown: Hooray! I was hoping it would have been sooner than this but all that matters now is it was for the best and you can move on and think of yourself.
     
  8. IslanderOffRoad

    IslanderOffRoad Do you even lift kit? OT Supporter

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    While I understand your enthusiasm and appreciate the advice you've given me all the while, I'm not at the point yet where I can share it.

    That being said I think I'm going to Vegas for hookers and blow this weekend.
     
  9. IslanderOffRoad

    IslanderOffRoad Do you even lift kit? OT Supporter

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    Yes, but not looking to jump into a relationship for a while. I've got focusing on getting into B-School (and possibly relocating)to worry about.

    I will take some random play though
     
  10. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :mamoru: Just don't go crazy and wear condoms.
     
  11. IslanderOffRoad

    IslanderOffRoad Do you even lift kit? OT Supporter

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    Even with her on the pill for the duration of the relationship I never stopped wearing condoms.
     
  12. BoypussY

    BoypussY game over.

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    damn sounds like you DEF did not want any kids
     
  13. PcH

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    4 and a half years :eek3: Damn.
     
  14. IslanderOffRoad

    IslanderOffRoad Do you even lift kit? OT Supporter

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    Neither of us did at the moment. Later, yes. It was something discussed and agreed upon.
     
  15. Abomb

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    LDR's suck a fat one anyways. congrats on your new freedom :)
     
  16. just_another_on

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    It was an LTR bro, not LDR. :rofl:
     
  17. Abomb

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    :wtc:
     
  18. calisteph6

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    go to canyon club on thursday nights. if you can't get laid there just kill yourself. :mamoru:
     
  19. IslanderOffRoad

    IslanderOffRoad Do you even lift kit? OT Supporter

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    So an update on this one.

    We got back together pretty soon thereafter. Had a talk, decided to enjoy shit while it lasted. Back in August I moved to Texas for grad school. She did not move with me, as she was finishing up her undergrad back in Ca.

    She graduated in December, finally got a job doing what she wanted to do in March. In May I came home to visit.

    She told me then that she wanted to take a "break" until I figure out if I'm moving back to Los Angeles. She doesn't want to leave and understands that I think my career opportunities are elsewhere.

    After the short break up last year this time's been a bit easier. The fact that she sort of gave me an ultimatum made it easier too; never been a fan of those dictating what happens in a relationship.

    So now I'm single, living on my own, have tons of great friends, and graduate in December with nothing holding me anywhere.

    Feels good man.
     
  20. nrgyserboy

    nrgyserboy New Member

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    lucky bastard, i am jealous of that free feeling even tho I'm a single guy myself. Recovery period is gonna take a little longer. On another topic... what grad degree at Texas?
     
  21. IslanderOffRoad

    IslanderOffRoad Do you even lift kit? OT Supporter

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    Getting my MBA at Baylor.
     
  22. nrgyserboy

    nrgyserboy New Member

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    Nice... well shit, you'll be making six figures in no time. You can wipe ur tears with some 100 dollar bills. I'm planning on applying for a MBA next year. How old are you?
     
  23. IslanderOffRoad

    IslanderOffRoad Do you even lift kit? OT Supporter

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  24. Falconer

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    Fixed.

    Well, what you said was grammatically correct, but you wouldn't want him thinking "oh wait, wearing condoms is going crazy, I better not do that" :mamoru:
     

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