SRS Just cheated on my girlfriend of 2 years- shit

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  1. nbiggershaft

    nbiggershaft New Member

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    I was drunk as a monkey last night and cheated on my girlfriend of two years, she knows because a friend of hers was at the party. Should I tell my girlfriend that I was drunk as shit and it wouldn't have happened if I was sober, or would that just be adding fuel to the flames?
     
  2. kenzo

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    it's ur fault
    dont blame it on the drink
    would u forgive ur gf if ur gf was drunk and fucked some guy?

    either way...
    see what will happen
    if u 2 can work things out then it's fine if u 2 still love each other

    tell her what happened

    but i dont know if u should even deserver her...
     
  3. Cerridwen

    Cerridwen Guest

    Take responsibility for your actions and don't blame it on your being drunk.
    She may be forgiving, but chances are that won't happen (and for good reason). DON'T GET MAD AT HER WHEN SHE GETS MAD AT YOU!
     
  4. Soren

    Soren OT Supporter

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    like another poster said: would you forgive your GF if she excused herself for fucking another guy because she was drunk?
     
  5. CPipes

    CPipes Shit definitely just got real!! OT Supporter

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    Do NOT pull the ole "i was drunk off my ass" excuse. Go in taking full responsibility with 0 excuses.
     
  6. Stare At The Sun

    Stare At The Sun New Member

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    Your best bet is to be honest, in all ways, tell her you love her, and put yourself at her mercy. Tell her you will work to build her trust, remind her of your past together, and remind her of the future you want together.

    If you want to be with her still, act mature, stand up to what you did, and take whatever happens because of it. Don't get angry at her, just roll with the punches, and if it is meant to be, she will be with you in the end, if not, learn from it.
     
  7. Soren

    Soren OT Supporter

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    btw, this cheating thing will forever mar your relationship :sad2:
     
  8. frpSpore

    frpSpore New Member

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    When you say cheat, do you mean you plugged another woman's pussy with your love log?
     
  9. x deaD piXeL

    x deaD piXeL Turn up the fucking music!

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    Fuck you. People like you cause drama in the world. I hope she breaks up with you. Drinking isn't an excuse.
     
  10. Soren

    Soren OT Supporter

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    love log? :hsugh:
     
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    Saying "I was drunk" won't change anything. Cheating is cheating. If you can't control yourself while drunk, don't drink.
     
  12. $shot

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    i agree w/ the other posters
     
  13. blindarrow

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    Everything else that has been said, plus an additional "You're a retard."

    If you can't stay in control while drinking, DON'T DRINK. People like you are the reason relationships are such shit nowadays.. you don't keep respect for your partner, nor yourself, nor the relationship. That's pathetic.
     
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    I just think you are dumb for doing it in front of her spies.

    Be more stealth next time.
     
  15. deny deny deny

    even if her friend was there, did she actually see the act? if not, say nothing happened. it's obvious that you regret it. telling her will only make you feel better and her feel worse.
     
  16. Love/Hate

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    yeah, folow his advice and build your relationship on lies...:rolleyes:
     
  17. HoodRich

    HoodRich Professional Street Nigga OT Supporter

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    even if they got you on camera, "it wasnt you"
     
  18. when you lie, it means that you care. i don't trust people who are always "honest"
     
  19. Create

    Create :free at last:

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    You fucked up. Own up to it like a man.
     
  20. Advan

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    your the same one who threatened to divorce your husband for wanting to purchase a gun, how can you supply relationship help?

    I say you as far as the cheating goes you fucked up, alchohol is not an excuse, Take responsibility and see what happens. Good luck
     
  21. Create

    Create :free at last:

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    03 white zx3 has given sound advice for as long as I've seen her posting.
     
  22. ~*Mia*~

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    I second that.

    As for the OP, you screwed up. DON'T lie, for goodness sake, that will only make things worse. I may be willing to forgive a bf who cheated and was completely honest about it and obviously sorry. But girls aren't stupid, especially if one of her friends saw, she'll know if you are lying. If my bf LIED to me on top of cheating on me, there would be NO recourse, no going back, it would be over. Despite what some other not so intelligent posters on this thread have said :rolleyes: , lying is never the way out. You don't lie to people you care about.
     
  23. Kwattro

    Kwattro The box. You opened it. We came.

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    I promise you 100% that if you own up to it and are honest she will hold it agaist you for the rest of your relationship (if you stay together), and it will come up at the worst and most stressful times, and constantly be used against you as ammunition. You will never escape you mistake, ever, no matter what she says. I say learn from the mistake and take it to your grave.
     
  24. PuppyCat

    PuppyCat O.T. Mom

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    :nono: Being drunk is absolutely no excuse for screwing around.


    ~Mom~
     
  25. bad_kitty

    bad_kitty New Member

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    Own up to it, let her freak out, take a breather and work on a better relationship, it can be ok after this.


    I found out the my bf cheated on me 2 years into our relationship, I freaked, took a break and now we have been together with no further problems on either side for 8 years now.

    It hurts but be honest.
     

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