First off, I know the general rule after breaking up is to completely separate yourself from the ex. But I also hear that the general rule is not to ask a girl out when you've been friends with her for a while. well, i was friends with her for about 1-2 years. we got to be really good friends, and i started to like her quite a bit. so, i asked her out and she says yes. we go out happily for 6 months, (at 14 I find that to be quite a while). then the summer holidays start, and she leaves for switzerland. After about a week I'm chatting to her when she says that she thinks it better that we go back to being friends. this does hit me hard, but i stay cool with her and say 'sure'. i dont see her for another two weeks, (which does count as a bit of a break) but cant stop thinking about her for those two weeks. now I kept thinking that there was no way that we could just go back to being friends, but when i went to her house today it seemed like we could - i mean, everything was fine. I'm just wondering what the OT community thinks about whether its possible for us to stay friends? or whether things will get messy?