I spend alot of time just reading other member's posts either here or on the asylum just about relationship issues. I was just wondering to those who are also just reading, how does it affect your viewpoint of your relationship? Do you learn from it, or do you see these kinds of signs? I mean no disrespect to the people who's posts Im referring to. I feel that after reading alot of these, I feel more appreciative about what I have going, but it also raises the "what if" scenario. I here all the same kinds of things happening, for example, the "never thought she would leave/cheat on me" kind of statement. I just try to learn from these kinds of issues, Im not trying to say im insecure, but if you hear the same things from your SO, and then go see a thread like this, where they may have had almost the same exact strong relationship as you are, and they ended over any particular thing, it just makes you think. I cannot imagine the emotional pain and stress caused by some of these events, dont take me wrong when I say this, but I use it to my advantage to avoid my relationship ending up the same or similar way? Anyone else thats just a reader, get the same kind of thing, or am I just over analyizing?