Juggling Girls...

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  1. Guz200sx

    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    Okay....2 months now since I broke up with my ex and I've been talking with different girls. I've had a couple of daggers and a couple of flirts but nothing substantial until now. One of the girls I was talking to faded away eventually cause she seems to have lots going on so I'm moving on. Also she lives about 3hrs from me [i think] which in reality is no biggie. She also has an 11yr old son.

    Anyway, I currently have two girls that I am interested in...
    One of them lives about 6hrs from me....and another one lives in my same town. I have meet the girl who lives in my town. She was ok. Outgoing, big ol' booty (haha), and funny. We have good chemistry over the phone. She said I was quiet and different over the phone but she also surpised me by bringing her 7month old son (i knew of him already) and her friend and her friends 13yr old son and we all hung out at the mall. It was an okay outing....I wanted a meeting just with her...I wouldn't have even minded her son but her friends...c'mon. Anyway, we have still been chatting via the phone....I asked her to meet up again but we didn't lock in a date. SO its still up in the air.

    Now as for the one girl who lives 6hrs from me, we've been chatting for some time now via IM and email. We have even discussed meeting up halfway and seeing whats up and if we hit it off then maybe hanging out the weekend. But i don't know if I would even do that cause financially I shouldn't. I can meet her but staying in a hotel would stretch me really thin with things so I don't know. I also have to ask myself...do I really want to drive 3hrs to meet her?? I might....if the possibilty of something else were their
    We talked last saturday for 7hrs on IM. We have just started talking via phone. I am second guessing on asking her to talk via the phone with me because I think I am going to be overwhelmed by trying to talk to two girls.

    I don't know if their is anything with either girl because I haven't seen one in person and I haven't spent enough time with the other.

    This is a position I have never been in so Its weird and I am confused and what to do.....I want to continue talking to them but I also do not want to become overwhelmed with talking to them. I also do not want to lead one or the other on if I do become romantically involved with either one.

    Both relationships with each girl is a bit different....the girl from my town seems to listen and we share some more because we are both spanish. But she has a son which I don't mind but may be frowned upon with members of my family but I'm beginning to not care what they think. And the girl who lives 6hrs away we seem to be more in sync, passionately speaking. During our 7hr talk, we talked about a lot of initmate things where as the other girl and our talks have only been about our past and our relationships in the past and how our daily lives are doing.

    I'm at a lost on what to do tho....
     
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    Seems to me that these women are kind of "bottom of the barrel" choices... I mean, one is 6 hours away, what kind of relationship can you have with her? Trying to meet with her is like saying "I'm so desperate I'd fuck a rock." The other woman who has a kid - no offense - well, she has a kid. Can't you find somoene single?

    I would recommend you hold out until you meet someone local and with no baggage.
     
  3. JJM Enterprises

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    Gotta be careful with those Internet chicks!! Also the one with the kid, although she may be nice and have stuff in common, it might cause issues in the future. Seems odd she brought the whole crew to the meeting too, unless she was just a little nervous.

    The long distance thing prolly won't work, unless you're just trying for a booty call with that one. If so, you'll have to man up and drop the $ for the room anyway, so go for it!
     
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    I think you can pretty much forget who is 6 hours away...it would be way too hard to nuld a relationship with someone from scratch who is that far away.

    As for the woman with a kid...are you ready to have a family, or seriously get involved in his life. If you get serious with her, you're going to get serious with him...and it will be a LOT harder to get away from a woman and child than to get away from just a woman.
     
  5. Guz200sx

    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    Thats the thing....I've only meet woman with kids or ones that are long distance for me. I honestly do not mind a woman with a kid. I can build a relationship with the kid very easily without a problem. Thats not a big thing. Starting a family is what I am & have been looking for. Just need the right woman.



    She might have been nervous...I don't know....She might not have thought nothing about it. I think its the latter.

    As for the long distance thing, she is already talking about meeting halfway which would be 3hrs for each of us and if we hit it off, she has said maybe we could get a hotel together so we can spend part of sunday together. I have a certain chemistry with this girl that I have not had with anyone which is strange. I'm still on the fence about driving three hrs to meet her tho....but I'm gettin convinced more and more each day. I'm definately down with a booty call...and I also think a relationship could be developed even if the two individuals live 6hrs apart. If people who are even further away can do it then why can't we? It takes two special individuals to do something like that and if two people can do that then that says a lot about what they feel for each other.

    Also we made a bet about something the other day and she lost and she agreed that she would be the one to come down to where I leave (in no certain time frame)


     
  6. MattThom01

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    you're not getting it. I'm asking, how likely do you think it is that you would be able to build a solid relationship with someone, from scratch, if you have to drive 3+ hours to see them? Think about it. You won't be able to just go see her when you both have some time to spare. You're going to have to plan it out every time.

    Yeah, you can talk on the phone/IM all you want, but it's going to be very difficult for you to see her in person regularly. It's not really fair to her, or you, because you'd both be wasting a lot of time on each other, when you could each be spending probably twice as much time with someone who was local to each of you. I'm sorry, but I just don't think you're going to start a solid romantic relationship with someone, if you have to drive 6 hours to see them! How soon before you guys get tired of a 3-6 hur drive just to see each other?

    Now, I'm not knocking LDRs...but most of them, the people involved begin the relationship wen they are close to each other. It starts out well, because they can see each other regularly. Then something comes up to seperate them.

    And this is going to sound incredibly stupid, but it's a valid question. Why can't you meet up with a girl who lives less than an hour away?
     
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    Guz,

    I'm starting to come to the realization that you'll take just about any woman that gives you the right attention and that isn't what you need.. you're willing to sacrifice driving 6 HOURS to have a potential relationship with a woman that lives THAT FAR away? Then, you're considering the woman with a 7 month old child? Here is the big question, why does she have a 7 month old child and the daddy isn't with her? Thats already a big red flag.. how come things didn't workout there? The child is only 7 months old for crying out loud! You seriously want that baggage?

    There is one thing to want to start a family.. there is another thing to want to get with someone who already has emotional baggage from a previous man with another mans kid trying to make it your own, let alone she brought her friend along with HER KID who is 13 years old! That just tells me she isn't nervous.. she wanted the friend to see what she thought of you but bringing not only her child but the friends teenage son aswell.. this just sounds like tons of a positive relationship in the works! Whats next? You two have sex and the friends son is going to join in?

    Give me a break.. stop using Myspace or these other online dating sites to find a woman.. they can only be good to a certain extent.. start meeting someone LOCAL WHO IS SINGLE!

    You can do so much better.. I have faith in you, Guz.

    Btw.. how is life going now that you're living on your own? Nice, isn't? You're becoming more independent now, start getting usto it!
     
  8. Guz200sx

    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    I just said in the same thread that I am talking to a local girl but she has a kid. The kid factor is not a problem. My ex had a kid and i was fine with it. I got along well with the kid.

    I just finished a set of questions too with another girl who lives in my town too but guess what? She has a kid (or kids, don't know yet) and single mothers is all I seem to attract. Maybe cause they can see I am a good and caring guy. :o

     
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    omg...

    the reason you only attract women with kids is because it sounds like you send out queries, then wait for them to come to you!

    If you are a good and caring guy, you can attract lots of women. not just ones with kids.
     
  10. Guz200sx

    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    I don't know if I would drive 6hrs to see her....I can say I have thought about it....Its like going to huuuurting New York City which I have done before to see wack-o family members.

    why does she have a 7 month old child and the daddy isn't with her?
    The guy cheated on her and she found out just after she found out she was preggo. The guy is in the military and he signed away his rights to the child and obviously has no interest in knowin the kid. He is in another state right now stationed. He wasn't with her or there for her for the entire pregnancy. Occassionally calls her to bitch at her for some bogus stuff.

    I don't see a problem with using online dating sites. Its easier than going to some fucking bar and meeting some dumb drunk barfly. Besides, I don't frequent bars or clubs.


     
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    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    Most of the single women/moms I have meet have been via on-line.

    And if you mean queries like questions then thats what one of the sites does. Eventually we start to chat via the site, maybe get our emails or phone numbers and then start talking.

    Generally speaking MOST single moms know what they want and thats a good man who won't play games with them and/or their kids. I hate fuckin around with single girls who don't know what the fuck they want.

     
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    then get away from meeting women online...
     
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    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    I don't see a problem with using online dating sites. Its easier than going to some fucking bar and meeting some dumb drunk barfly. Besides, I don't frequent bars or clubs.

    Whats the problem with meeting women online?

     
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    nothing. But you said that you only seem to get single moms online.

    I was suggesting that if you want to get away from meeting single women or women super far away, don't rely on the internet as much.
     
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    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    I was just stating that the trend for me seems to be Single moms. Even the close ones, have kids!!

    Shockingly enough, The one girl who lives 6hrs away is single, no kids.

     
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    no offense and not to knock the single women with kids, but do you really wanna start a family with someone else's kid?
     
  17. Guz200sx

    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    wow....you guys sounds like my parents:ugh: I could have went to them and gotten the same advice and the same questions
    Honestly though, I am starting to lean towards the girl who is single with no baggage but lives 6hrs away. Like I said before we have a certain chemistry. We connected via email and IM and also on the phone. I think we'll connect if we meet too.

    The girl with the 7month old is starting to wear off on me....
     
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    Dude, seriously!! You're actually considering the chick who lives 6 hours away? You're really that desperate? You were complaining driving like an hour and a half or something with your ex.. the last one with the kid.

    There is one thing meeting chicks who are always single moms.. then, there is this chick who lives 6 hours away! You don't need to strap yourself with a single mom nor someone hours away.. find someone local, single for goodness sakes! Are you looking for single moms because you feel they WON'T play "games", because they have kids? Is that your motive? Is this why you seem to always attract those kinds? Come on.. you wanna do it online, eh? Start finding some chicks who are single and only direct your message to those that are local.

    Other than that, can you do us a big favor? Post a picture of yourself.. I want to see WHAT the problem may be. Your confidence doesn't seem very high, your lack of maturity seems like a pushover.. to an extent of being a doormat. I'd like to see if the face matches the personality of the type of guy I'm imaging in my head. Sorry to sound so BLUNT but you need a makeover on the confidence factor and possibly.. change some things with your look or the way you're describing yourself on these dating sites!

    Oh.. and let me tell you something.. you don't need to meet women only in clubs and bars. there is something called events in your area you can join, grocery stores, typical things you do everyday can meet you single women, no kids!! Hell, what about the place you just moved to? Meet your locals around the area.. theres a start.
     
  19. Guz200sx

    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    What about the girl? Is that girl that lives 6hrs away desperate too?? She must be.....I mean she is calling me, she is seeking me out. I don't call her. She calls me. Matter of fact, she just did. Anyway, I don't get what the problem is....the site I am on people meet long distance all the time. One of my friends even joined up and he's chatting with some girl in Cali!! SO Whats the problem??? Oh Yea.....you can't build a "serious relationship" with someone that way. What makes people think you can't??? If the chemistry is their then WTF. One of my friends told me the other day that a guy we know in our football pool met his girlfriend the same way and she was in Ohio too and then she moved from Ohio and now couple yrs later they are married and living in VA. So it does happen. :ugh:

    BTW when did i ever complain about my ex and the distance? I don't recall that.

    Most Single moms know what they want. They want someone serious, someone smart not a dumb guy and they are not looking for a screw me session.

    Personally, I think I look ok. People tell me i'm not a bad looking guy and that I'm a good dude. I see no reason in posting my pic....I don't have a good one either where I am dressed and lookin good.

    Nowadays, Its a lock that If I go up to some woman in a grocery store she is gonna freak. This is not a fuckin bangbros porno vid I am taping.

     
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    You're not getting it. Here's what we're saying. If you can attract a great woman that lives 6 hours away, why can't you do so with a woman who lives close by?

    And I'm just going to come out and ask, how do you expect this relationship to work (with the woman 6 hours away)? How often are you going to see her? How long will you two be together when you do see each other? It's not just a matter of chemistry, it's a matter of time and practicality. In case you didn't know, one of the biggest factors of attraction is simple exposure. With a woman who is 6 hours away, you won't be in personal contact with her that often. How do you expect to start a relationship and maintain it at a normal level if you see her like once a month or something?

    WHY SHOULD YOU HAVE TO DRIVE 6 HOURS TO BE WITH A WOMAN?

    To be honest....your answers come across as being majorly defensive, and overjustification. This makes you come across as seeming like you CAN'T get a single woman with no baggage who lives near you!

    Do you live out in the desert or something?

    Why are there no single, baggage-less women that you can be with who are closer to you?
     
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    What I am trying to say is.. why would you even want to put yourself in a position to date someone who lives 6 hours away? What is your problem that you just can't find someone closer? Atleast set some standards for yourself man.. you really want to second guess dating someone long distance in another state or 6 hours with the current girl to set yourself up for possible disaster when you two meet it just may not work out! Then you basically wasted on that time, for what? Then you have to start working it all over again.. instead of taking that as a lesson, why not eliminate it from even starting so that you can concentrate on finding someone local that is single? All this time you're here talking to this girl and there could be another woman in your local neighborhood and you overlooked her without realizing it for believing in yourself that there is something with a woman 6 HOURS AWAY!!! Geez, man.. thats a long ass time to drive, even 3 hours meeting half way! At the very least find someone an hour away!

    Otherwise that, yes you did complain in the past about your ex with driving to see her because of the distance but that you didn't mind too much because you got to see her and all sorts of fun you two had.. if ya know what I mean. I'll find the thread if it needs to come to that!!!

    Anyhow, I just think you can do soo much better.. why lower your standards to find someone so far? And why even possibly wonder about finding someone in another state if that became an option? Why would you? What is wrong that you cant find local? I dont understand whats so hard.

    Meeting a girl in the groceries does not need to be from a scene from bangbros.. you've watched way to much porn, now you have this thought that all girls will think of you like that and you're wrong, just need to phase your questions in a different way, get her opinion on some food or products, you two could be in the same isle, see what she says.. take it from there.

    Example: going to isle 7.. cleaning products.

    Shes looking at some fragrance air purifier plug ins..

    You: Hey, have you ever used the Vanilla Cinnemon?

    Her: Yes, actually it smells really good! I really like the Apple Cinnemon one though!

    You: Oh that sounds great! :) I've always wanted to try something new.. I've used the Sandwood and Strawberry every now and then and it makes MY place smell great!! ( hint, notice how I said MY PLACE.. yeah man, let her know you're on your own now, big points! no more living and mom and dads!! )

    Her: Oh, it smells that good, huh? Maybe I should try it?

    You: Yeah, and I'll try the one you just recommended..

    Her: Awww.. you're so sweet, I'll do the same.

    You: By the way, My name is Guz, please to meet you.. :)

    Her: my name is Lindsay, hi Guz

    You: How long have you lived in the area?

    Her: About 2 months now actually!

    You: No way! I just moved here like 3 weeks ago..

    Her: Thats awesome!! How do you like it?

    You: I think its great.. I'm still trying to get usto it though.. since we're both new, lets exchange phone numbers and meet up next week for dinner.

    Her: You know what, Guz? That sounds like a great idea! My number is...

    BINGO!! SCORE

    *** The above method worked for me in the past.. very easy to pull off aswell. need confidence, thats it my friend! :) ***
     
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    This is so far up the AFC tree I can't even comment.
     
  23. Guz200sx

    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    an update

    I talked with the girl who lives 6hrs away Thursday nite and we made a plan to see each other Oct. 28th

    She was asking me though how spontaneous I am and that if she were to say 'i am going to be at the 3hr halfway mark Saturday, will u meet me their?'
    I was kind of hestiant on it so i told her lets plan for a later date so we agreed

    FF to friday morning @ work. I get to work & I find out my co-worker is going up to the halfway mark (frat party @ the local U + football game Saturday, co-worker asked me if I wanted to go) that me and the girl from last nite had been talking about and I found it as way too coincidental (FATE??) so i texted her tellin this and that I was thinkin about going now. anyway, long story short....friday nite the plans fall through (w/going w/my c-worker) but i make the decision that i'll go see her saturday, so right now i am getting ready to leave and drive up to meet her at the halfway mark. we talked for a good long time last nite and we both looked for & booked a room online, got directions and made some plans on what we might do down their and now we'll see how it goes.
    Their seems to be things to do and I think it'll be busy since its a college town and their is a football game saturday and i bet it'll be jumping off if the team wins....

    I am confident its going too go good. A lot of it is going to be spontaneous which I am usually not. I'm more of a well thought out person but I'm being crazy right now and going to go see whats up.

    If there is nothing their (which i do believe their is SOMETHING) then oh well. I'll come back and keep talkin to the local chick and keep tryin my hand at other girls.
     
  24. Guz200sx

    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    BTW, I believe I am very confident and I'm tryin the cocky & funny method now. thats one thing i regret with my ex.....I look back and I was too nice with her and just too nice in general and too fake. I am normally funny and cocky in a smart ass way but it excites the girls and thats what its all about. Basically all this trip entails is going to have fun. Whatever happens, happens. People down here in VA are boring. I can never get anything going with people here cause they are so unorganized. case in point - my co-worker. we ended up never leaving cause her other friends couldn't get anything figured out so i was like whatever. and my other GUY friends are the same way. it takes months of planning to do anything! everyone is busy or something else. So i'm goin away to have some fun and chill out, maybe things happen with this girl, who knows. if not then at least i had fun and i can add it in a chapter in my book.

    Right now i am dressed to kill....wish i had the cam charged i would take a pic and post it. So you could see how KILLER i look and am.
     
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    Except you have to drive 6 hours away to find someone who appreciates "how KILLEr you look and are"

    wow...seriously you just keep trying to defend and justify evrything...

    Good luck with being "spontaneous" in a relationship with someone 6 hours away.

    And what was the point of bringing up the married woman? She's married, there's no way anything could happen, so bringing it up was pointless...and just led more credence to the idea that you're making excuses.
     

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