SRS jealousy

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  1. moses

    moses OMGWTFBBQ

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    I've got a real problem with being jealous. Its to the point where its costing me major setbacks in my life. Are there any good books that I could read to try and work through this?



    I've also been thinking of seeing a shrink to try and work through some personal stuff. Would they be able to help?



    Thanks
     
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  2. AlohaRacing

    AlohaRacing Freak that bitch out

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    You need to find the root of your jealousy. Once that's determined, you can read books or see someone about eliminating it.
     
  3. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    if you are worried about yourself and not others, you will be happier and more successful. also, if you help others become successful later on they can also help you.
     
  4. dano

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    A psychiatric evaluation can't hurt. If your insurance covers it go for it.

    As was mentioned, you need to figure out why (by your own means or through the help of others) the root cause of your jealousy. Find that out and you're off to a good start.
     
  5. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    From what I know of you and your posts I would say see a therapist. It can only really help you and your situation.
     
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    What is it you are jealous of? Other people's relationships? Other people's money/jobs/success? Other people's happiness?
     
  7. moses

    moses OMGWTFBBQ

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    yeah, i definitely want to cuz i know i'm a little off.
     
  8. moses

    moses OMGWTFBBQ

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    relationship jealousy, other guys, etc..

    i'm almost certain that it's from my first real relationship. my gf at the time was talking to my best friend behind my back and left me for him in a matter of 24 hours.

    that's the only thing i can really think of.
     
  9. METALLlC BLUE

    METALLlC BLUE New Member

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    What type of situations provoke jealousy? Jealousy is a symptom of insecurity or threat to one's character, physical body, or one's bonds (Whether to people, or objects)

    If you've thought of doing it, then it would be worthwhile to do.
     
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    The bible says jealous anger blinds us from seeing the benefits we have and makes us dwell on what we don't have.

    Don't worry about what others have, and definitely don't compare their lives to yours. As long as you have some kind of positive force in your life and you are constantly making progress, whether it be in work, school, your personal life, etc. you will be fine. It's when you have nothing to work towards and are at a standstill that you can't help but notice how "lucky" some others are.
     
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    :hs:

    You need to let it go. Just know that if she did it to you, she will do it to any other guy and you won't be the only one. Use her as an example of what NOT to do in your next relationship.

    :hug:
     
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    When you don't give a shit you have nothing to be jealous of. :noes:
     
  13. moses

    moses OMGWTFBBQ

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    I really wish not giving a shit was in my character, but it's just not. i'm a good guy and tend to care.




    it really sucks.
     
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    moses OMGWTFBBQ

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    i thought i did, but in the new relationship thing i'm in, i find myself insanely jealous all the time when she even talks to other guys. most of the time i can bite my tongue and deal with it, but i messed up and let it out the other night and now she's upset with me and not talking to me.
     
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    Ironic that what we fear, we create. The very thing we're terrified of........becomes real as a result of being afraid to begin with.
     

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