So me and my girlfriend have been on and off for years, two yrs ago I cheated on her which SEVERELY damaged her trust for me. I've been paying for this daily So here's the current scenario...I'm a homebound kind of guy, i dont go out often, maybe 1-2 a month. I work come home play ps3, smoke a blunt or two and repeat the proccess. IF and WHEN I do go out, it's usually to a club with my friends. Reason being that my friends ONLY go to clubs, they dont like bars, which i prefer. So my gf being very jealous and not having much trust for me hates it. She bears with it and I appreciate it. If i could convince my friends to do anything but go to clubs I would, but i cant so in order to keep my sanity and not go completely insane i go out with them to get my mind off arguing with my girl, stress from work or family. Her problem with me going out to a club is always the fear of me cheating on her and being unfaithful to her again. I understand why she feels and fears this but its been two years and i've treated her like a queen and made up for it tenfold. I am not perfect, I can't say that i have 100% trust for her because i dont. I can't say that i am not jealous because i am. I have different reasons for this though. She has always been faithful, i have never ever suspected/or expect her to be unfaithful. She's just not that kind of girl, she has that little ounce of respect for herself that most girls lack now a days. She loves to dance and since I dont like going out much when and if we do go out dancing its once in a blue moon. I dont bring her with me to the clubs with my boys because my friends are typical male jackasses. They disrespect women they act like jerks etc etc. I always tell her look i have too much respect for you to bring you around them, i dont disrespect women and i dont want my friends being the way they are while you are around. She understands this She has a sister and female cousins whom, i assume in their own relationships go out seldomly without their husbands and leave their kids at home to go out dancing I was raised in an old fashioned home, my mother cooks cleans...my dad works and whever they go, they go together. I am adjusted to life in this modern era obviously but i still hold true to the old fashioned mentality that i grew up around. SOoooo this brings up the problem i have with her going out. I dont like it when she goes out because i feel like a woman shouldnt be going out 'dancing' with her female friends for fun. I dont see it as acceptable for a woman to leave her man/children at home to go and shake her ass and tantalize men at a club. I trust her ENOUGH to not cheat on me, that i can say. I know if/when guys approach her and try to seduce her she pushes them away or tells them off. I just dont like, let me rephrase that, i dont feel comfortable knowing my girl is in an environment like that without me. She wants to dance? fine lets go out dancing, whenver she says the word we can go. She wants to get away and spend time with her friends? fine, whats wrong with going to the movies, shopping, the mall, getting your hair done? etc... I always tell her i'm not going to be an oppressive boyfriend and tell you what you can and cannot do. I'm not her father nor would i like her to try to tell me what i can and cannot do. So this friday (first time in MONTHS though ) shes supposed to be going out with her cousin, who to say the least is a bit loose (two kids, husband...and one night apparently got on stage at a club and danced while everyone videotaped ). It reallly reallly urks me that she's going even though i dont want to tell her not to go. On top of it all, shes going to a VERY bad neighborhood to some lounge and she's like "i'll be home by 4am" What can i do?