"I've been thinking about you alot" bad??

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  1. SovietRussia

    SovietRussia What? You pooped in the refrigerator? OT Supporter

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    so this girl and i have been hanging out a little bit, she lives about 2 hours away and i honestly have been thinking about her alot lately. she came up last weekend to see me, and we had a great time. is it bad for me to tell her that i have been thinking about her alot or things like that? we have only known eachother for about 2 weeks. she has told me she likes me, etc. i just dont want her thinking i am some needy butthole because i am not.
     
  2. skitcy

    skitcy uhm title! ok

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    She might get the :ugh: feeling
     
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    themacstallion The electric sheep are dreaming up your fate

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    Hint towards it maybe, but i would just wait for her to start talking like that.
     
  4. Nouia

    Nouia New Member

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    Why are you pursuing this when she's two hours away?
     
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    okita1 Great spirits have always encountered violent oppo

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    might make you come off as desperate
     
  6. SovietRussia

    SovietRussia What? You pooped in the refrigerator? OT Supporter

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    :dunno: shes pretty hot, and we get along great together.
     
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    have you bought a ring yet?? :mamoru:
     
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    honestly.. it all depends. if she has actually told you that she has feelings for you, then no, it wouldn't be a bad idea to tell her that you're thinking about her. girls like to know that you're thinking about them, especially if it was something minor (those things are usually major, in women's eyes ;))

    i wouldn't think that she'd get freaked out if you told her that since it basically spells out, " i really am beginning to like you, and i'd love to learn even more about you."

    all girls are different. give it a shot! if she does freak out she wasn't worth it in the beginning.

    good luck :)
     
  9. FXD02

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    Long distance relationships CAN work, if it isn't going to be that way forever. Two hours isn't really long distance. Go out a few more times and see how things go. I don't think she'd freak if you told her you are digging her and thinking a lot about her. Especially since she has told you she likes you.

    If she's a normal human being she won't run out the door screaming. But take it slow and try to see what she wants.
     
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    i dont see how it can help you with her
     
  11. dscallaway69

    dscallaway69 New Member

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    Here is what I see in the future

    "Help my g/f lives 2 hours away and I think she is cheating on me" or
    "My g/f says she needs a little time since she is 2hrs away"

    But just my opinion
     
  12. Asses Maximus

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    My crystal ball tells me the same thing.
     
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    I think it also depends on how/when it is brought up and how you say it.

    I can't give good/bad examples since well, every situation is a little different, so you have to desipher that on your own. This is esentially the pre-I love you. ;) Meaning change the context of your post from "I've been thinking about you" to "I love you", and it's the same thing, just later in the relationship. ;)
     
  14. JordanClarkson

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    What you should say is "So, have you been thinking about me a lot?" Basically whatever you feel towards her, ask her if she feels that way about you, without first telling her what you feel.
     
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    Honesty is the best policy. You will ne kicking your self in the ass later. Dont hold nothing back. If she dont like it...it wasnt ment to be.
     
  16. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    Unless she is brick stupid she is going to take that question as, "Please tell me you love me because I have a crush on you and don't have the balls to say so." Not that it's a good idea to say so. Unless you are very smooth with words, with delivery, with how you phrase things, usually just stating how you feel as a fact leaves a funny little silence in the air. I personally would go for building sexual tension and kissing her.
     
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    It's called flirting. Girls will say "yes" to that question even if it's not true. That is what builds sexual tension.

    You can also just come right out and tell her the truth, but I'd deliver the line like you are lying about it.

    Relationships should never be that serious right off the bat. You don't want to peak too soon. Just have fun and let it happen, don't force it.
     
  18. Red Accord v6

    Red Accord v6 No more accord slushbox...

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    "i've been thinking about you a lot" isn't great worded like that, but I typically ease into a relationship with little things. "Hey, I had a dream about you last night", even if it's not true, is a good starter. Bring up something like "I saw xxx the other day, made me think of you". It's a way to say that you're interested w/o putting yourself totally on the line. Gauge her response to it to determine where to take it from there.

    Oh yea, if she asks about the dream (which will most likely happen), blow it off w/ "I never really remember too much of my dreams", make something up....just don't make it seem like you are obsessing over it, just bring it up as an aside.
     
  19. purplebeast

    purplebeast The depths of hell and endless torture await all h

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    If you have been thinking about her. Tell her. If you love her, tell her. It makes life much easier to just be honest. Fuck the mind games, "what will she think?", "what does she feel?"

    Fuck it. Tell her what you feel. If she is okay with it, great. You might have found the right person. If she gets freaked out. Thank her for her time and move on to the next person.
     
  20. chica&buddies

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    exactly! :bowdown:

    just gotta weed out the bad people ;) to get to the good :wiggle:
     
  21. SovietRussia

    SovietRussia What? You pooped in the refrigerator? OT Supporter

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    thanks for the help all.

    i also dont like the mind games either, but it seems like you have to go through a certain amount to get together with anyone now a days
     
  22. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    When you can make the truth sound good, that is a zillion times sexier. A smart girl will read that as sleaze.
     

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