It's not a relationship and it's not a "fuck" thing.

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  1. anomalous

    anomalous New Member

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    So this guy and I have been seeing each other for about 7 months talked about what we had.

    At first I asked if we were just friends with benefits, but he cancelled that saying that it would imply of both of us seeing more than one person, which we weren't. So as we wondered I just said I'd call it a "thing" unless either of us decided what it was. I didn't ask if he wanted it to be a relationship...it seemed intimidating to ask it at the time.

    So anybody know what this might be?
     
  2. SQLee

    SQLee The OTer That Cares™

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    Fear of commitment?
     
  3. XaPU!M

    XaPU!M Active Member

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    Why do people always feel the need to label everything? Can't you just enjoy it for whatever it is regardless of a label?
     
  4. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    How the fuck should we know?
     
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    Hate Crime Don't Hate OT Supporter

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  6. jonno

    jonno New Member

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    and who gives a shit what you classify it as.
     
  7. jonno

    jonno New Member

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    exactly
     
  8. 04JETTA

    04JETTA OT Supporter

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    maybe u just really enjoy each other's company
     
  9. Kinks

    Kinks Sup. OT Supporter

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    While I agree, invariably that results in one person going "oh hey we're in a relationship" while the other one thinks it's all open and sleeps with someone else. Cue heartbreak when the first person finds out.

    I think being honest in ANY kind of "situation" is only fair on both involved.
     
  10. armond

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    there has to be some sort of known status between the two of you... now if you know the person has the same ideals, being monogamous for example, then no need to inquire. but otherwise...
     
  11. Why do you want to label this? Just enjoy it.
     
  12. Falconer

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    So you're seeing each other exclusively, and you're fucking, but it's not a "relationship?"

    You're monogomous fuck buddies. Nothing wrong with that.
     
  13. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    take notes, guys!

    SHE should be the one wondering early on "what our status is," NOT YOU.

    Her man obviously knows what he is doing :)
     
  14. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :wtf: Who says her guy isn't wondering about the same thing?
     
  15. jonno

    jonno New Member

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    he most likely is. he's just keeping his mouth shut
     
  16. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Maybe. Maybe he's on some other internet forum asking the same thing...MWAHAHAHA
     
  17. jonno

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  18. Cymric

    Cymric New Member

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    So you're asking us to label something you're both (for some reason) not wanting to label. Well, first of all let's go ahead and say you do want to label it or you wouldn't be asking. Secondly, why the hell do people always do this? I think I stopped the "what are we" talks after about the first year with dating. It seems to me like people rarely mature in regards to relationships these days; and from evidence on this forum, I'd tend to say that's rather accurate.
     
  19. danewreed

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    What are you looking for? That question you wanted to ask but didn't might give you the insight. See what ya'll are both looking for and see if it lines up; it's better to find out early (and its been 7 months already) then operate in the blind.
     
  20. Jimeigh

    Jimeigh Every rook and jay in the corvidae have been raven

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    call it, "a good time while it lasts"
     
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    Because most likely he doesn't care.
     

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