SRS It's been 9 months since the love of my life broke my heart.

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  1. -Rico-

    -Rico- OT Supporter

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    And I still miss her and cry for her like she just left me yesterday.

    Is this normal?

    I know time heals all wounds and all but my symptoms haven't shown any improvement.
     
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    no dude, 9 months later is not normal...
     
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    Have you been going out and doing things? Sometimes its best to distract yourself some... at least in my experience.
     
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    Are you the guy who was obsessed with some childhood friend that came back into your life for like a month who was married with children? And it broke your heart that she wouldn't leave her husband for you
     
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    ^if so, then

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    Yes, during those 9 months I have taken up tennis, made new friends, tried seeing other girls, took up some new hobbies.

    But at the end of the day, no matter how busy I kept myself, all the heartache just catches up to me.
     
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    Time to realize shit won't change. She's moved on and if you don't you'll be miserable forever.
     
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    If it where that easy, I would've done it 9 months ago.
     
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    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Then go see a counselor. It isn't supposed to be this hard so if it is then obviously you need help.
     
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    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    I'm pretty sure therapy does not have a sexual identity.
     
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    You're a dude right? I think you need to go see an Endocrinologist and get your hormone levels checked becasue you're acting like a 14yr old girl. I'd do that along with some therapy.
     
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    Short Bus Beep beep!

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    Nine months? Damn dude, I thought I was slow to recover...
     
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    how old are you?
     
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    Nine months and still crying? That's definitely not normal.
     
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    I try man.

    But I can't seem to be able to get her out of my head no matter how occupied i keep it.
     
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    You didn't even date this woman. You can't lose something you never had. Instead of being mean I am just going to tell you that you SERIOUSLY NEED PROFESSIONAL HELP.

    I don't care if you think you don't, there is obviously something fucked up with you and you aren't strong enough of a person to fix it. Seek professional help unless you want to be a whinny little bitch for the rest of your life.
     
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    She was my very first girlfriend.
     
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    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Great. Now go get your very first therapist.
     
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    ...When you were 14
     
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    When you love someone, you NEVER stop loving them. You just learn to live without them.
     
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    your first gf and you cant get over her after 9 months?

    i got over my first wife after being w. her for 6 yrs after 3-4 months.

    you need a therapist. and thats coming from someone that thinks therapy is a bunch of bs and that if you cant deal w. your own issues you're a pussy.
     
  25. XaPU!M

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    Exactly, so start doing it





    Plus you weren't all fucked in the head when you actually DID lose her (back when you were 14). It's not like you cried yourself to sleep for 12 years. Instead she came back into your life at a time where it wasn't possible for her to even consider dating you and somehow this hit you extremly hard. I don't understand it at all, but you lived without her for 12 years without issue, now all of a sudden you are a mess... therefore you NEED professional help
     

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