SRS It seems as if my grandparents never talks to me anymore.

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  1. CopenKagan

    CopenKagan OT Supporter

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    I just found out tonight that my grandpa had some minor surgery on his back. I was never told about this.

    I call them to see if they will be home for me to visit, they usually have something going on already that conflicts with it. So I don't see them that much.

    It just seems like ever since my dad died, they seem to not want to communicate with me. I call them, but it's usually just quick "How are you doing?" type things. I have seriously only seen them two or three times since my dad passed away in July.

    I just miss my dad and I miss my grandparents. It seems like my brother and sister see them much more often than me. And even if it's to call, they talk with them more.

    Maybe it's just in my head, but there has to be some kind of change with them because I saw them at least twice a month before. The next foreseeable time I will see them is on Thanksgiving, which is a month away.

    I just want to know why the hell this is. :hsd:
     
  2. marauder

    marauder New Member

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    Hmm sounds odd. Mybe you look a lot like your dad and or somethinf sound like him don't know maybr makes therm sad to see/takl to you because it reminds them of your dad to much.
    Still bit odd if thats the case :dunno:
     
  3. CopenKagan

    CopenKagan OT Supporter

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    Yeah, I look very similar to how he did.

    But still, I don't think that's a reasonable excuse. :hs:
     
  4. GlassUser

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    I look almost identical to my father when he was my age, and my grandmother loved it (he died several years ago, so we had more time after). But people may react differently
     
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    PuppyCat O.T. Mom

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    Why not just come right out and ask them "Hey, I feel ...."
    Be honest.
    To be schmaltzy, tell 'em that you love 'em.
    I wish my Grandparents were still around...How I envy you.
     
  6. Darketernal

    Darketernal Watch: Aria The Origination =)

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    Well in these cases there's always a 'reason' behind it, your fathers dead might well have send their minds into a place of sorrow and grieve and everything that reminds them of it might not be welcome, or was it something you may have said or done?

    I have no clue , but its best that you continue your efforts or ask your mom maby she knows something you don't? You can try asking family members why grandparents are acting so distant? Is it their way of grieving? Bring a spade so to speak and dig out the reason that lies behind the whole odeal. I hope its not because they dislike you but be prepared that that might be the case. :hs:
     
  7. dave steel

    dave steel My Kung Fu is the best.

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    I think you should share these thoughts with your brother and sister.
     
  8. Spirito

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    maybe you remind them with your dad , and this is painfull , and they need more time to get over it ..

    *sigh* , why dont you tell them your feeling ?
     

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