Is this pretty common? And if so, why do girls do this?

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  1. whamola

    whamola Tonight....you.

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    So, the girl I used to date last fall broke up with me early January, and started seeing her ex again. We talked while she was here at school, but since she moved home for summer, I've spoken to her 3 times. Well, yesterday the becomes single again and at about 5 calls me. I was at work so I didn't have my phone, but i shot her a text at 11 or so when I got off just kinda a "hey, just seeing what you called about." I got back from her "Oh, I just was calling to see how you were doing, see how things were going"

    I mean, doesn't that seem a little odd? Becomes single, and calls me out of the blue even though we've barely spoken just to see how I'm doing, right before she moves back for school?

    Btw, I have no intentions of getting back together with this girl, I just thought I'd share with you all and try to get some insight as to why girls do this stuff.
     
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    Dethfat New Member

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    cuz she misses you and wants you penis inside of her :dunno:
     
  3. verdiocchi

    verdiocchi Oh snap!

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    Obvious answer: She's bored/lonely. Classic move for both guys and girls. She's looking for some attention to take her mind off things until she leaves. My best friend has a guy like this. The kinda dated and randomly keep in touch. When she becomes single again, she calls him to hang out. He knows exactly what the deal is and is fine with it. They go on a few dates, cuddle, hook up, etc until she starts dating someone else. Then they lose touch for a while. I've known guys that do the same thing.

    You're basically the fall back plan to pass the time.
     
  4. whamola

    whamola Tonight....you.

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    I mean, if pressured, I'd probably agree to the 2nd part.
     
  5. arseclown

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    she's feeling shitty because of the recent breakup and wants to see if you're doing better or worse than her. it's just an innocent looking question to fulfill a selfish desire to be better off than your ex. move along.
     
  6. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    You're the fall back guy. Don't fall for this shit. It's very very common. Girls tend to keep a guy waiting in the wings that they know likes them so that if shit goes down (they get single, etc.) they have a guy to run to. Basically they need validation in some form.
     
  7. moses

    moses OMGWTFBBQ

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    Fucking women, i hate them.

    i'm sure you can tell from my posts lately, i'm very, very bitter :)
     
  8. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Yes, I am noticing this. What happened with your girl? The one you went on that date with and hooked up?



    PS-Don't hate all women, honestly.
     
  9. moses

    moses OMGWTFBBQ

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    dunno, she lost interest or something. i called her a few times afterwards but I could tell it wasn't there. Saw her out at a party and she was friendly and a little flirty, but never called back :dunno:
     
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    huntz0r New Member

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    You are Plan B.

    Might not be such a bad thing, as long as you aren't emotionally invested. But since she's the one who broke up with you, chances are she just wants attention.
     
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    TROOF.
     
  12. whamola

    whamola Tonight....you.

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    You all are pretty much saying what I was thinkin.
     
  13. Falconer

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    Everything said in this post is true.
     
  14. DTR rex

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    Was the ex she got back with from an LTR they had?

    Either way, she is leaving for school and her and the ex are having complications you are the fall-back guy. Chances are, she will end up getting back with her ex again, so I would steer clear unless you can get her to agree to a fuck-buddy relationship while you guys are at school together.
     
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    lauren Active Member

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    they're insecure. guys do the same thing...the whole calling up past gfs when you find yourself single. it's a security/ego boost/empathy thing.
     
  16. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    or just take advantage of the offer. is she hot?
     
  17. Balzak

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    I love this.
     
  18. Durka Durka

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    too late i already do.
     
  19. Durka Durka

    Durka Durka Guest

    haha

    no, i'm not. i'm tired and they're not worth it.
     
  20. Guz200sx

    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    If he's got the chance to be with her then why not?

    EDIT: And by "be with her" I mean sex.
     
  21. whamola

    whamola Tonight....you.

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    Yeah, that's it. Basically here's the whole rundown:

    Early Fall 2006-
    Dating a guy she'd been with for ~1 1 1/2 years.
    We start hanging out a bit
    They break up
    we hang out more and more, become semi-serious
    We start dating

    December- she goes home for Christmas, acts sketch
    New Years- Her ex shows up to pick her up after New Years
    We break up
    She comes back from Christmas break, we hang out quite a bit, but no relationship...she talks to some guy from work that she "isn't interested in" but dude is crazy about her..no big deal to me

    Goes home for summer, gets back with the old ex
    Yesterday, becomes "single" and calls to see how I'm doing.

    She'll be back in a week or two.



    I always felt like her guy at college the whole time, while she still kept around her guy back home. It always kinda felt like that...but Imean, I finally found out it was true.

    I want NO relationship.
     
  22. Durka Durka

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    god what a whore
     
  23. Guz200sx

    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    Well, when she comes back...she'll prolly want to hang out again. You can do two things -

    1. Blow her off. Tell her you are busy. Which will drive her crazy. Only do this IF you want to fuck with her.

    2. Tell her you are not a Yo-Yo who is going to be going back & forth and Goodbye. Do this IF you want to be rid of her

     
  24. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    I'm not strong enough
     
  25. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    He possibly has a chance, but as he already mentioned he doesn't want to get with her. And the more important reason he shouldn't is because whether he is in denial or not he has lots of feelings for this girl (and it doesn't sounds like she cares about him in the same way). It will be a big ol' mess if he falls for her and she then wonders why because she was just using him.
     

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