is the "average" girl down for friends with benefits?

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  1. BCIT

    BCIT Guest

    are they?
     
  2. Jarg0n

    Jarg0n New Member

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    You're kidding, right?
     
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    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    So many things wrong with that question...
     
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    I dunno... It is my experience that recently divorced women and/or ones just out of a long term relationship are more likely to want "friends with benefits"... They don't really want a relationship, but do want to be "taken care of"... and a "friend w/ benefits" feels a little safer than just going home w/ random guys from the bar...

    I've had a handful of "friends with benefits" relationships with girls... and at that time in my life, it worked out really well for me... Several of them I'm still friends with, even though the "benefits" went away several years ago...
     
  5. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Every girl is different. The only way you will find out is by asking each girl.
     
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    In most cases, I don't want to be friends with the girl. I just want the benefits.
     
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    define "average" girl?
     
  8. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    In college, more often than not.
     
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    I never really wanted to be friends with benefits with anyone. I'll only have sex with somebody if I'm in a relationship with them.

    I don't know if I'm average though. :ugh:
     
  12. Savage5point0

    Savage5point0 Im an asshole.

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    Most will, you just have to lie to them. Tell them youre just "taking things slow", or just really "like the way things are going now".
     
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    but thats the challenge, asking.
     
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    so, you wanna start a relationship?
     
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    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    :werd: Some girls will say FWB is fine, but really they're just trying to reel you in. This can work both ways actually. :o
     
  16. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    I don't see why. If she gets upset then you move on. If she's cool with it :bigthumb: I had a guy ask me if I wanted to be FWB and I thought it over and then said no thanks and things were fine :dunno:
     
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    I've noticed the most emotionally stable (stable, not mature, because that would definitely depend on how you define mature-- wise? seasoned? or what?) women are more down for FWB, or more specifically, intimate relationships that have no real fear of loss.

    It's neither good nor bad, average nor abnormal. A lot of times it's a phase or the right person that triggers it.

    I'm the last person who is void of emotion in relationships. However, I've certainly been intimate with women that I've absolutely cared for as a person and a friend, but felt no real loss when the FWB (or whatever you want to call it) ended.

    It just takes the right person to trigger it
     
  18. Viper

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    One night my cousin (who is about 40ish) told me that his theory is this.

    Out of every ten girls you ask, 1 in 10 of them will say yes, and 9 in 10 will slap you.

    He was referring to saying to them "Hey, you wanna fuck?"

    I agree with his theory. If you've got a thick skin, anything you ask, roughly 10% of the female population will be down for it if you just straight up ask.
     
  19. LBFilmGuy

    LBFilmGuy LOL why u mad tho?

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  20. LBFilmGuy

    LBFilmGuy LOL why u mad tho?

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    :werd: to this too.
     
  21. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    this is Aquakittie's projection of Aquakitte onto the "average woman."

    in addition to every person being different from other people... each person is also different from him-/herself, depending on the time of life / hormonal peak / what have you.

    suddenly, pristine christine needs to get her butt fucking on from random hot club guy when she turns 30.

    and as someone who unlike Aquakittie has interacted sexually with women - I would have to say that almost all women are down for a FWB thing at SOME point in their lives.

    happy conquests
     
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    fuckin werd
     
  23. Alaya

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    There's too many ways to define "average." I'd say it's fairly split, and it doesn't mean either one is right or wrong - some can separate emotions and sex fairly easily, others can't do it well.
     
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    i would say most will be OK with it as long as it's kept on the DL
     
  25. lauren

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    right.


    there's a reason i'd be fucking you and not pursuing a relationship..... keep it quiet mister, and we'll both get what we want.
     

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