Is sex a "big deal" to you?

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  1. I'm a guy. Sex is a big deal to me and I expect it to be a big deal for my SO as well

    76 vote(s)
    51.4%
  2. I'm a guy. Sex isn't a big deal to me but I expect it to be for my SO (I'm a hypocrite)

    17 vote(s)
    11.5%
  3. I'm a guy. Not a big deal to me, don't care how many partner's my SO has had

    23 vote(s)
    15.5%
  4. I'm a guy. It's a big deal to me but I don't care if it isn't to my SO

    7 vote(s)
    4.7%
  5. I'm a girl. Big deal to me. I want an SO for whom it's a big deal, too

    9 vote(s)
    6.1%
  6. I'm a girl. Not a big deal to me but I dont want an SO who has tons of random lays (i'm a hypocrite)

    4 vote(s)
    2.7%
  7. I'm a girl. Not a big deal to me, don't care how many partners my SO has had

    7 vote(s)
    4.7%
  8. I'm a girl. It's a big deal to me but I don't care if my SO has had lots of random lays

    5 vote(s)
    3.4%
  1. Falconer

    Falconer OT Supporter

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    Some people consider sex to be a "big deal" and reserve it only for special people. Other people don't care and will fuck anyone. I don't necessarily mean they will fuck anyone as in cheating, but they won't think twice about having 100 random lays before getting married.

    Which are you?

    Poll choices coming, give me a sec cuz i'm not sure how i'm going to word these and i want to make sure everyone is happy and there's no "but Flaconre, wat about blah blah blah?"

    edit - I just realized I edited half the options. For the purpose of this poll, make the following assumptions:
    - Sex not being a big deal = more random lays (because you don't care because it's casual)
    - Sex being a big deal = few to no random lays (because you do care because it isn't casual)
     
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  2. Boosted98gsx

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    I am a guy.

    I'm fairly conservative when it comes to whom I sleep with. Has to be someone that I am interested in (at least now :p ).

    I'm a guy. Sex is a big deal to me and I expect it to be a big deal for my SO as well
     
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  3. XaPU!M

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    You missed an option.

    I'm a guy. Not a big deal to me, don't care how many partner's my SO has had*



    *Depends if she showed absolutely no concern/respect for her own body/health and fucked entire football teams and hooked to put herself through university vs. would fuck guys she was actually attracted to.
     
  4. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    Sex can be a HUGE deal for me. And sex can be no big deal for me.

    So in answer to your question: "fail."

    It's not about the sex itself. It's about my relationship with the person.

    "For the purpose of this poll, share my conservative, fear-based world-view."

    FFFFFUUUU
     
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    I'm a girl. Not a big deal to me, don't care how many partners my SO has had.




    And by that I'm not saying I slept with everyone who batted their eyes at me, but I have had my fair share of sexual partners and did it safely.


    Edit: And, I feel like this discussion comes up once a week here nowadays!
     
  6. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    It's a big deal to me and I expect it to be a big deal to my SOs too.
     
  7. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    • Sex may or may not be a big deal to me depending on the occasion. I care about my lover's sexual history because it is part of her life experience. I do not care in the sense of "you whore."
     
  8. BlazinBlazer Guy

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    Voted. Probably don't have to say much more than that -- we all know what my answer is.

    Based on the other votes though, knowing how the vag tends to be, I'm not so sure everyone is following these assumptions.
     
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    Blazin, you whore.
     
  10. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    That assumption was retarded.

    If you care a lot about sex, you may have a lot of sex as a result. If you don't care a lot about sex, you may have no sex as a result.

    If you don't care a lot about sex, you may have a lot of sex as a result. If you do, you may have little.

    It goes both ways and is thus a retarded assumption.

    The point of the assumption was so that Falconer could take his fear of promiscuity and turn it into, "It's because I CARE TOO MUCH."

    Yeah... and I have sex because I care too much about sex to worry about some puritanical muttering on the part of ignorant buffoons.

    Lol.
     
  11. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    A virgin whore! It's a miracle! That's even more impressive than being a virgin mother! :bowdown:
     
  12. BlazinBlazer Guy

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    I think Falconer just worded it awkwardly so it's hard to tell what he really is intending to ask.

    My interpretation of what he's looking to find out is if people think it's important to reserve sex for people you care for and are in a relationship with, or if you feel that sex with random one night stands is acceptable.
     
  13. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    Yes, that is what he's attempting to find out. But I wouldn't say the wording was "awkward," I would say the wording was "loaded." :dunno: Consciously, or not.
     
  14. Thelonius

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    I'm a guy. Sex isn't a big deal to me. It's just something I need to do, like taking a dump or a piss. Just another substance my body makes that I have to expel. When I do so I get a pleasurable feeling...end of story.
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    "I care too much" :rofl:
     
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    If your goal is merely to expel a substance your body makes, and get a pleasurable feeling in the process, masturbation is a viable option.

    So do you have some other reason you can cite as to why randomly involving a partner in the process is no big deal to you?

    I'm not criticizing either way, I'm just curious.
     
  17. JohnJohnJohnson

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    Come on you can figure that one out. It's more pleasurable with a partner.
     
  18. BlazinBlazer Guy

    BlazinBlazer Guy Witness to The De-Evolution of Mankind.

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    BTW, Falconer (or anyone else for that matter), did you happen to catch "House" tonight? They were dealing with a similar issue about open marriages. Kind of interesting, actually.
     
  19. Falconer

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    No. I don't usually watch that show, but when I do see it, I usually like it a lot and think "wow, I should watch this show" :rofl:

    The 2 part season finale where that one chick died was hella sad. Also, Cutty in a schoolgirl outfit :wackit:
     
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    No TV here :hs:

    I wonder what insight Blazin got from House regarding open marriages. I really do :)
     
  21. antihero

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    not voting because of stupid option wording.

    Sex is a huge deal to me. Such a big deal I go through great lengths to have it often and with great variety.
     
  22. Diesel66

    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    voted #3, but it's somewhere between 2 and 3.

    I don't would rather it not be some HUGE IMPORTANT THING to her, but I also wouldn't want her to have 100+ parterns. Admit to being slightly hypocritical.
     
  23. THoC

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    in the context of this thread i voted NO big deal to me and NO big deal in regards to my SO.

    i will sleep w. any girl i find attractive and whose personality does not make me want to kill her.
    my SO sex historty (out side of the extreme) is not my concern. im concerned about who she is now.


    in the normal meaning of "is sex a big deal to me?"...... it is a HUGE deal for me. not so much that it runs my life bc i wanna fuck so many different girls. but it is a huge deal to me while in a RS.
     
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  24. Ep

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    sex is a big deal to me. I can understand a couple of one night stands, but to have 20 partners is just wrong to me
     
  25. THoC

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    20? :hsugh:


    there could be so many situations as to why a guy/girl could have 20 partners. short RS but he/she was monogamous is one.
     

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