SRS Is it wrong...

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  1. Rodthrower18

    Rodthrower18 New Member

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    To want someone to share your life with, the misery and the joys? Im heavy in the misery dept. right now and feel like everything is caving in around me and even though I am fighting on my own(winning a couple losing many more) I find myself wanting someone there next to me in it all. I know thats totally unrealistic though, why would anyone WANT to be involved with my problems when they can make problems for themselves? Why would anyone want to just be there for me? I cant even make this post make enough sense to get good advice, im sry for wasting everyone's time :hsd:

    edit: LMAO I just thought about it and summed up my whole post in a few words hahaha Misery loves company but nobody wants to visit. :hs:
     
  2. Darketernal

    Darketernal Watch: Aria The Origination =)

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    A partner that loves you wants to be with you for who you are, the problems that you have , its correct who wants problems? Nobody, but the whole idea ' i want someone in my life to solve my problems' is wrong. You love someone and therefore you desire a persons company. And many couples solve their problems together, but what you have to realise is that ' your not on your own ' , we are here for you right? :dunno: just stating the obvious.

    And maby there will be a lot of obvious answers to your problems if you start posting them in here, we all love to help :wavey:

    And in answer to 'Is it wrong... To want someone to share your life with, the misery and the joys?'

    I can say that's completely normal :dunno:

    Share it with us. :wiggle:
     
  3. Rodthrower18

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    Thx alot, it's just been really tough lately, took out a big loan for school purposes but a big big chunk got taken out for family stuff (I live with and was raised by my grandparents who dont make much money and are starting to need help with stuff from cars to fixing things around the house, which all conviniently costs money that I really dont have to freely spend but its needed and I cant turn my back on the ppl that didnt turn theirs to me when I was 2). So a lot if not the lion's share of my problems are rooted in evil err i mean money :mamoru: (sry my corny jokes cheer me up sometimes). Yea I dont want anyone to solve the problems for me that didnt come out sounding right in my post haha, im really just wanting to not feel alone in all of it anymore, but at the same time I really hate making anyone worry(funny I say that considering I want to be an Officer of Marines as my career of choice, which is looking like is going to be fairly lonely as well).

    edit: I also tend to hide myself away with anime and my car ( I go to meets sometimes but its usually just me in the driveway with tools in hand gettin scraped up and oily and jjust "away" for an hr or two).
     
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  4. Devilish

    Devilish Remind me AGAIN

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    You will find someone when the time is right, and if they are the 'right' person then they will share the ups and downs with you. Lots of people don't like getting involved with those who have 'baggage' though, or who tend to place huge burdens on helping them solve problems. There's always a professional that can help with that sort of thing.
     
  5. PuppyCat

    PuppyCat O.T. Mom

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    I totally agree that it is WONDERFUL to have someone to share joys and sorrows with. To get a hug when one is down and a comeuppance with smile when one is required. It is good to turn your head knowing that someone is there for you. I'm not really an advocate of the "professional" thing, most tend to give lip service or dispense medication...a far cry from being hugged and listened to with compassion. DarkEternal means what he says about sharing the burden...you got problems or just want somebody to listen without judgement, I would say this is the best place to come and unload. You are not alone here by any means.
     
  6. Rodthrower18

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    Thx everyone, its strange, I want someone but it's like slipsneezle said noone wants someone with baggage, and I honestly dont want to bring baggage to anyone. As for the hugs I dont get any anymore, but im kinda used to that, and also I know I wont be getting any hugs when I ship to bootcamp( a partial solution to some of my money woes is going reservist to finish school and THEN going Officer instead of just going straight through school and going Officer).
     
  7. Riconosuave

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    It's not wrong to think like that at all. Everyone wants to have someone there during rough times. I cared about someone. I wanted to be there for her. Helped her through some rough times. Got dropped after she felt all nice and better :Owned:
     
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    Same thing here. Minus the part about getting dropped afterward. Maybe because she's not completly better though. I actually kinda fell for her helping and caring for her so much. Which may I add wasn't good because she didn't want me like that and it turned out to be a lot of pain.

    As for the topic.. it's not wrong. You could find a friend easily who would be there for you. Althought I might add a lot of those friends can easily get sick of your problems and move on. As for someone more than a friend, they will most certainly come along eventually. Don't expect to haave someone like that just for your problems though.
     
  9. Rodthrower18

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    Thats part of what started me on this downward spiral at least emotionally, and everything else just fell into place and now everything is snowballing pretty nicely, I pretty much kept this girl from failing out of Pre Med, and once it was all well again I got dropped, on my birthday no less b4 I even had a chance to drive home and suffer at my own place, I was still at school when she gave me the phone call, last year was MAGNIFICENT :hsd:

    edit: its kinda messed up that I remember the exact time and place I was sitting when she called me hahahaha, im normally everyone's goto guy to talk about their problems and get advice from, and when I even try to go to them I get something along te lines of "I dont know wat to tell you I mean I always go to YOU for my stuff that I dont know how to deal with", it's really kind of funny and sad that way.
     
  10. Devilish

    Devilish Remind me AGAIN

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    Sometimes you spend the whole time helping someone else and forget about yourself. I'm sure you will pull through it and she'll pop into your life when you least expect it
     

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