Is it wrong to enjoy one night stands?? For the fella's...

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  1. Ferbs

    Ferbs New Member

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    I need advice! Up untill two days ago I had not had sex for almost 2 years. I was a little sexually adventurous in high school and a little after and did not want to be considered the "slut" anymore so I went on a sabatical. Well I finally broke down the other day and invited a guy back to my place from the bars. We both knew what was going on so we just got to it. It was great! I had completely forgotten how amazing sex is! I got up after we were done and hopped in the shower. then I got out and we made out for a bit and he went home. Now all i want to do is have sex. Im old enough now not to care if im considered a slut but I dont want this to hold me back from finding a great relationship one day? :smileysex
     
  2. Miss Red

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    This shouldn't hold you back from finding a relationship as long as you don't get a huge rep for it or you let it keep you from finding a relationship.
     
  3. ACLdestroyer

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    Personally I think as long as you dont have kids/get pregnant and dont get an std/spread anything you are good to go.

    Dont get me wrong I would still consider you a slut but I dont think of "slut" as such a derogatory term anymore. :dunno:
    Go ahead, rack em up. Doesnt bother us men who are self confident.
     
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    lol now you know what a guy feels like
     
  5. Mugen92GS-R

    Mugen92GS-R New Member

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    Theres a difference between being slutty or being a whore. I have no problem with girls being slutty (i.e., sleeping with a large number of partners) so long as they were responsible about it, and it stops once we're together. Sex is FUN and shouldn't be such a taboo subject anymore.
     
  6. Ferbs

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    Well Thank you all I feel better. And of course responsible sex is the way to go!
     
  7. LBFilmGuy

    LBFilmGuy LOL why u mad tho?

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    So uh, where do you live? :mamoru:
     
  8. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    I don't see how it's a problem unless you are sleeping with men without a condom and are just sleeping around to ignore emotional issues with significant relationships. But since you say it was all a silly issue in your head of "I don't want to be a slut" I wouldn't worry about it.

    However, if you continue to do one night stands you will find out quickly that you will have bad sex, sometimes horrible sex. This tends to come from the fact that you're sleeping with someone you don't really care about or really have chemistry with and at that point sex isn't that great. This is why a meaningful relationship can be great. You can not only have constant sex, but learn what eachother loves and craves in the bedroom.

    But again if you'd rather have one nighters all I care is that you have some standards and brains and don't fuck around without a condom.
     
  9. Vysion

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    Is it wrong that I wished I could meet more girls like you?
     
  10. Alexqzilla

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    You go girl
     
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    Emfuser Nuclear Moderator Super Moderator

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  12. jonno

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    no, as long as you're aware of the risks and consequences.

    and :werd: to what IWYWB said
     
  13. Zee916

    Zee916 Engineering the world.......

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    I think I'm on the opposite end of this compared to most.

    Going out and hooking up a couple of times is fine. If I was trying to get serious with some girl and she told me she's screwed 20 dudes on one night stands that would be the end of it for me no question.

    Not to be judgemental, but that's just not the type of person I would want to go long term with.
     
  14. dan7532

    dan7532 New Member

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    I would not judge. TS: Do what pleases you. The world needs more females like yourself.
     
  15. Diesel66

    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    and when you date a girl like this and her number comes out to be ~50, would you still feel the same ?



    Don't lie to yourself, it's still slutty behavior. Doesn't matter if it's men or women. Have fun.
     
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  17. arsbu

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    I have this same mentality. It really depends on the guy you meet in the future. However, I'm totally understanding of enjoying yourself sexually so although it would bug me, I would get over it.

    Like the others have said, be responsible. I would like to add, be selective with you who sleep with, not just any douchebag you meet at the bar.
     
  18. lauren

    lauren Active Member

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    why not just have a fuckbuddy?
     
  19. Falconer

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    I've never had a ONS so I dunno.
     
  20. arsbu

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    This is probably a better idea, especially if it's somebody you trust and etc.

    Most likely some guy you find at the bar is just trying to unload his sperm for the night. At least with a FB, they'll try to keep you a bit satisfied so that you'll stick around.
     
  21. dan7532

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    Her history is not my business. I wouldn't ask how many she's had and if she feels the need to TELL me, she's not a classy, relationship-worthy gal.
     
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    nothing wrong with one night or 2 nighters long as its not every weekend
     
  23. Diesel66

    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    :ugh:

    sorry, but how is that "non classy" ? If you are in a long term thing, I would think everything would be open. Now obviously if you say "i don't want to know", that's a different story.
     
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    They're fine.

    Most people who rip on them just can't, don't, or haven't had one.
     
  25. ACLdestroyer

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    You and every other fucking single man on the planet earth, and some non single ones.
     

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