is it too much to ask for from your SO

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  1. Kev07

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    for your SO to want to see you, to not be indifferent, just kinda there when shes with you? i mean yeah, i don't expect all smiles and giggles when i see her, but show something. appreciative that someone's with her and cares, etc etc, grateful to have someone in her life.

    im not thinking that straight, maybe i can word it better later

    /endbeingalittlebitch
     
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    Maybe she's bored. :dunno:
     
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    oh wait a minute, i gotchya.


    yeah; you're in trouble there man.
     
  4. Lucky Penny

    Lucky Penny Mr. cut me some slack cause I don't wanna go back,

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    It woulds seriously hurt my feelings and piss me off if my SO acted that way.

    Have you talked to her about it? How long has that been going on?
     
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    im having trouble wording it myself

    i could probably answer questions a lot better
     
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    nah, i got it now... your comma usage threw me off.


    i smell the "we need to talk" brewing.



    i disagree. if he talks to her about it, it'll be their breakup talk.

    she's probably passive-aggressive and this is her way of getting him to initiate the talk. i've had it happen to me before.
     
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    its really on and off

    the most recent one has been going on for about a few days.

    the day of our final (Friday), we were studying and she started getting into that mood, after the final she got really sick (fever etc etc) so i understand that and i asked if she wanted me to stay with her (i was about to go out with friends) and she said she was alright so i went out.

    halfway out she asks me to pick up tylonol for her and i bring it over later that night and she was really bad (headache, high fever, rolling around moaning). originally i was just going to drop off tylonol and go back to my place to shower and sleep(havent had good sleep in a while cause of studying and i've seen her the past 3 or 4 days), but i decided to stay with her that night cause she was really sick.

    morning after she really got into that "eh" zone. i was a bit irritated that she didnt show much appreciation for me staying with her all night.

    im having a hard time wording this.
     
  8. Lucky Penny

    Lucky Penny Mr. cut me some slack cause I don't wanna go back,

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    No, I got it- awkwardly worded but understandable.

    And I don't think you're 'being a little bitch' about it either, for the record. Being around someone who doesn't want to be around YOU is pretty uncomfortable and not generally what you'd expect from your SO.
     
  9. Lucky Penny

    Lucky Penny Mr. cut me some slack cause I don't wanna go back,

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    Soooo what do you suggest? He break up with her instead of ask her wtf is going on? :hsugh::hsugh:
     
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    okay maybe i was wrong.... sounds like she is just sick to me, bro. i'm a fucking asshole to anyone around me when i'm sick.

    shouldn't have stayed with her though. she probably wanted to be by herself.

    now i'm confused though.
     
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    throughout most of our thing together, i dont talk to her about wtf is going on, instead i falconer it (analyze the issue, and find a way to fix it)

    i mean it works pretty well when i feel like it's worth it for me to go out of my way to fix these things, but when she just acts the way shes acting now, it makes me question if it's worth it
     
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    i don't suggest anything. i'm purposefully not giving any advice, with the exception of giving it some time. there's a handful of people here who can give him some solid advice, better than i could.
     
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    shes felt a lot better in the morning, almost normal

    but yes, i do see my overanalysis as a possibility.
     
  14. evh

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    give it a week. keep the contact limited. if things are back to normal, you're fine. if not, then you're in trouble and you should ask yourself what you want out of your relationship with her. then come back here about how to approach getting what you want. if you want to continue to be in a relationship with someone who is passive aggressive like that, then get that spark re-ignited. if it bothers you and you don't see yourself marrying, ask her why she's been so uninterested with you and then prepare yourself for a breakup... it might happen, it might not, but i'm pretty sure that's what will occur.
     
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    yes, but nowhere near sick enough that she'd have to be like this
     
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    situations a bit different, ill give you cliffs

    we're from different parts of the world and we met up on an exchange, started going out a little over 2 months ago.

    pretty much we're leaving for home soon, dec 27 to be exact.

    this originally started as a fling, but emotions flew

    i mean the way i see it, i want to make the most of our last times together, i asked her this a while back and she wanted to also, but ngeah, she's not showing it
     
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    Lucky Penny Mr. cut me some slack cause I don't wanna go back,

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    :werd: and :werd:

    I'm not someone you want to be near when I'm sick. :rofl:

    So wait, Kev, how many times has she acted so cold to you?
     
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    Lucky Penny Mr. cut me some slack cause I don't wanna go back,

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    I dunno bro, she sounded like she had a pretty shitty go of it. I can see it taking a few days to recuperate.
     
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    too many to count :rofl:
     
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    either that's how her character is or she's not that into you.


    pick one. either way it's not a desirable quality in an SO
     
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    definetely not, i wouldnt date her long term, but hey, i like her and i only have what, 14 days left here?
     
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    good attitude. get it wet while you can :)
     
  23. Lucky Penny

    Lucky Penny Mr. cut me some slack cause I don't wanna go back,

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    :werd:


    Just make sure next go-round you find someone who doesn't act like that :noes: No need to deal with that again.
     
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    i have already made that a deal breaker after meeting her :rofl:

    but damn, amazing what emotions can do to you, i really dont know why i like this girl so much :o
     
  25. Mr. November

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    Doesn't that fucking blow though?

    You find one you think is amazing and then this shit happens.

    Also...let her come to you. If she's interested, she'll come running back and fuck the "eh" moods.
     

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