SRS Is it so much to ask?

Discussion in 'On Topic' started by pandizzle, Jun 8, 2008.

  1. pandizzle

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    I don't really feel like explaining the whole situation so here are the cliffs:

    My two closest friends stabbed me in the back. I am still trying to maintain a friendship with my best friend but she won't talk to me or be the slightest bit open with me. We just went out for dessert and I put my heart on my sleeve and told her I'm not angry anymore and that I miss her but she didn't say a damn thing. She said it was awkward. Well, it was awkward for me too but I at least had the courage to try and salvage our friendship. I don't get it ... with her, no matter what happens, I'm always the one trying to reconcile.

    Oh and other than her I honestly have no close friends at all. Boyfriend isn't exactly helping the situation and I just want to feel like at least one person gives a damn.

    Some compassion would be nice.
    Thanks. :wtc:
     
  2. eljefedetonto

    eljefedetonto OT Supporter

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    Best friend or not, if I make an honest effort to reconcile and they don't bite, I'm gone.
     
  3. pandizzle

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    Seriously, I think I'm done trying. :crying:
     
  4. Darketernal

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    Yes sometimes we can be incredibly dissapointed in humanity.But hold on and stay positive even tho its hard, its a good thing if you tried to reconsile, but if they still give you the cold shoulder, then they aren't worth of being your friend. Sometimes you're better off alone, then being together and miserable even worse.
     
  5. borazhasleftthebuilding

    borazhasleftthebuilding Lets Party OT Supporter

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  6. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    I'd cut them off. My two closest friends (one I'd known since childhood) stabbed me in the back a few years ago for the wrong reasons and they ruined my life (at the time).

    I moved on from them and years later both contacted me to tell me they were so sorry and had felt horrible for years that they had been so stupid.

    I felt much better cutting people like them out of my life when at the time thye were being very irrational and stupid so much so that they would never talk it out with me.
     
  7. Coottie

    Coottie BOOMER......SOONER OT Supporter

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    The hard thing for me to accept is when a friend is no longer acting like a friend and there's simply no explanation. I keep wanting to change their behavior and maintain the friendship when they're saying nope.

    Someone gave me a great piece of advice years ago and it's helped me so much throughout the years. She said, "When someone tells you who they are with their actions, believe them."

    It's really that simple....all I have to do is just believe them. I find when I do, I'm much happier.
     
  8. pandizzle

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    Well, she's done this before but eventually she comes around but I'm sick of this run-around. That and it will be kind of hard to cut her off since we will be sharing a dorm next fall. :wtcd:
     
  9. Coottie

    Coottie BOOMER......SOONER OT Supporter

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    That's a seriously bad idea IMO.

    She's not treating you like a friend. Why would you ever want to live with her and see her day to day? Fuck that shit. Find a friend that won't treat you like shit.

    Let me guess, guys shit all over you also?
     
  10. MattThom01

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    Why would you stay friends with someone who engages in this behavior?
     
  11. borazhasleftthebuilding

    borazhasleftthebuilding Lets Party OT Supporter

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    then you are encouraging her to behave this way.
     
  12. pandizzle

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    Well, we made these arrangements when we were still on good terms. I don't exactly want to live with a stranger and all the other acquaintances I have will be living off campus. I don't really have any close friends.
     
  13. pandizzle

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    No, they don't. My boyfriend is pretty supportive but he keeps telling me to give her a chance and give it time. :hs:
     
  14. eljefedetonto

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    You'd rather take this risk than live with a stranger?
     
  15. MattThom01

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    bleh. living alone FTW.
     
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  17. pandizzle

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    You guys should be proud of me. I put in a hall reassignment request. :h5:
     
  18. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    I had to do the same thing. I was much better off.
     
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    someone posted this here before, and i loved it.. i'm also a hip hop fan though.

    "A thug changes, and love changes, and best friends become strangers" NaS
     

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