Is it possible to ever be completely over your "First Love"

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Is it possible to ever be completely over your first love?

  1. Yes

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  2. No

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  1. haargerman

    haargerman ayuh.

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    Alright, so here is my first pole evar.

    I've been thinking lately about something my ex said to me after we broke up last summer. She was talking about she doesn't think it's ever possible to be completely over your first true love...that you will always hold that person to be 'special' to you...and that even after finding someone new, there will still be a part of you that will always love/care for that first person you truly fell in love with.

    Discuss.
     
  2. peoplescar

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    I voted no. I think it depends on the circumstances of the break-up though.
     
  3. THoC

    THoC New Member

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    i voted yes. once you meet another person that you truly love you'll "forget" your first love. i use forget loosely since you will still think of her from time to time.
     
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    You can still "love" someone even though your not "in love" with them...so yes...you can...
     
  5. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Waaaay too many loaded statements in this. How are we defining "first love"? How are we defining "over them"?

    I can think of a number of old girlfriends who I loved deeply at the time, but no longer really give a shit about. I can also think of some old flames who I continue to think of fondly.
     
  6. CorpseStreet

    CorpseStreet New Member

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    Generally if I really care about someone whether it be a friend or SO I never stop caring. I can not want to have anything to do with the person but I still care about them to some extent and hope they are doing well. So, I'd say yes and no.
     
  7. haargerman

    haargerman ayuh.

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    The first person you had a serious relationship with and really felt like you loved them.
     
  8. THoC

    THoC New Member

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    i did.
     
  9. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    That's still hard to define. I mean I'm a passionate guy who falls in love at the drop of a hat. Just like Prick says: "Falling in love is just something I do everyday".
     
  10. peoplescar

    peoplescar Guest

    this
     
  11. Amanda Ann

    Amanda Ann New Member

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    If my first "love" were to die in a haze of fire, I wouldn't bat an eyelash.

    Probably the same goes for my second love.
     
  12. peoplescar

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    harsh... why?
     
  13. haargerman

    haargerman ayuh.

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    I agree.

    But by still "loving" them, wouldn't that be considered not being completely over them?
     
  14. haargerman

    haargerman ayuh.

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    Yeah. I mean I'm really asking this because I'm having a hard time moving on. I've dated and hooked up with new girls, but I'm constantly comparing them to her and the next day I'll start thinking about the ex again.

    I know it's just a matter of finding the right girl, and when I meet someone who's even better than the ex then I'll stop thinking about her. But there is part of me that thinks I might always have a soft-spot for my ex (regardless of how the relationship ended) because we were so compatible for the 3 years we dated, and we grew up and learned so much together...eventually life just took us in opposite directions.
     
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    damn. thats brutal
     
  16. Amanda Ann

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    :rofl::rofl: I mean my first "love" cheated on me more times than I can imagine (and I found out AFTER we broke up). So there's that. Not to mention I was 17 when we broke up.



    Nothing horrible happened between my second love and I - no cheating, no lying, no major arguing - just a falling out. But, I was just 19, nearly 20 when we broke up.


    In both cases I never kept contact with them, period. I wouldn't even know how to contact them if I wanted to. Not to mention, I'll be 25. I've changed and grown as a person since then.

    I'm all about keeping exes exes and keeping them in the past. I bent this rule once. The guy I'm seeing is my ex front last winter. I blocked him on everything (FB, Myspace, AIM) and deleted his number. In fact, wen he texted me this summer I was like "Who is this??"


    But, I'm not your typical, emotional mushy girly girl.
     
  17. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Nah, you'll get over it. :rofl: Don't mean to be harsh, but it's the truth.
     
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    its possible. it took me years, but now i barely care to be in the same room with him. the fact that he is a complete idiot screw up probably helps that...and the fact that i feel like i dodged a huge bullet.
     
  19. XaPU!M

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    I can't stand to be in the same room as my "first love". She's a retarded pain in the ass.

    She went nuts shortly after we broke up, and her personality did a 180. When I run into her she'll run up and give me a big hug and I'll do whatever I can to get the hell away from her. She's still tied to some of my friends, so I see her at the odd party or wedding etc.

    She is sooooo not an attractive person these days that I'm always confused as to why I found her so attractive then (personality not physically, she's about the same physically now as she was then)
     
  20. Lucky Penny

    Lucky Penny Mr. cut me some slack cause I don't wanna go back,

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    Very true.



    And yes, it is possible. I remember realizing that I was no longer in love with my first true love and despite him coming back into my life and offering me a very comfortable and enjoyable life, I still was not willing to give up everything I had because I was no longer in love with him. It was a pretty bitchin' moment.
     
  21. haargerman

    haargerman ayuh.

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    i hope i dont turn into one of those ex's :mamoru:
     
  22. iwishyouwerebeer

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    Yes.

    I've always thought it was retarded as hell how many people cling to the idea that no one gets over their first love.
     
  23. haargerman

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    Yeah, I guess I'm more clinging to the idea that she was "the one that got away", or I let get away.
     
  24. ForgottenSpiral

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    :werd: I've gotten over tons of them. :mamoru:
     
  25. haargerman

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    how many first loves do you have? :rofl:
     

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