Is it normal to get weirded out by compliments?

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  1. squid

    squid braap

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    So I'm at this gigantic party and my cousin's wife is introducing me to this girl. This is X, he's so great, he's such a gentleman, he's this he's that he's this he's that and he's SINGLE....she was so unsubtly trying to hook us up. Props for effort, since she was hot and she was interested, but I got so freaking weirded out by the constant barrage that she put up in trying to get us together. Fucked up or no?
     
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    no, i'd feel kinda awkward being put on the spot like that, but if you have a problem receiving ANY compliments at all then i'd worry.
     
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    I would have felt awkward, too. It's one thing to try to hook someone up with a friend and tell them all those quality IN PRIVATE/ONE-ON-ONE. It's a totally inappropriate and awkward to put both parties on the spot like that.
     
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    thats not just regular compliments. Its definitely normal to feel a little awkward when someone is being pushy.
     
  5. squid

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    cool so it's not just me. thx

    I'm a shy bastard so I thought that might be an issue.
     
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    A compliment is nice, but it is definitely awkward when someone over does it.
     
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    That's normal. I'd feel the same way, but if i could get myself to flow with it i'm sure i'd try to act the opposite as they said each one :rofl:, cause i'm an ass.
     
  8. iwishyouwerebeer

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    Shit, I get really embarassed if my bf even gives me the slightest compliment. I am terrible at receiving them....However, you shouidn't be weirded out by any means. Your cousin's wife was just being sweet and hoping to help you out, and apparently she did some good.
     
  9. Yail Bloor

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    all that stuff she said in that situation isn't going to help you out

    some self-effacing humor could work well for you in that scenario though. or make fun of the situation

    overall, if she wants to hook you up her saying something like "stay away from this one, he's trouble!" with a devilish grin would be much more effective than talking about how great you are

    she's gonna judge for herself, but someone talking you up just makes you sound like you need to "be sold" because you aren't selling on your own
     
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    oh, and to a woman, there was nothing "subtle" about that hook-up attempt

    it doesn't get any more blatantly obvious than that for a woman
     
  11. squid

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    I might have played it off bit more swavely if I hadn't spent the entire evening previous puking up my guts from a round of food poisoning :rofl:
     
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    Common, IMO. I always get weirded out by compliments - I always think people are humouring me. :hs:
     
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    bmorrell SoCal > *

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    I am not good at taking compliments. I used to be overweight as a kid which = no self confidence. Because of this, I still think that when people compliment me on things they are being sarcastic and laugh to themselves when I say "thanks".

    I'm getting better I think, but still a long way to go.
     
  15. Bob Brown

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    its always wierd when receiving compliments and your only answer is "thanks..." combined by a wierd expression on your face usually resembling :wtf:
     
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    That wasn't a compliment, that was a sales pitch.
     
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    Yes it might be weird, but it is weird for the other person as well. You both know what is going on, that your cousin's wife is trying to set you two up. You could use it to your advantage.

    Start off a conversation by making a joke about it
     
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    I take compliments horribly because I'm a bit modest. I've realized that sometimes it's not about the facts but how they feel about you. For example I was complimented on a photo that I edited. I didn't take the pic, so I was tempted to point that out, but if I did I would have invalidated his compliment and made him feel dumb.
     
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    any blatant attempt to hook 2 people up usually ends up being awkward. If she introduced you by saying "this is Brett, he is my husbands cousin, he is really into X" that works well. Especially if X is something she is into as well.

    But no, you arent on your own there.
     

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