I've been in a relationship with a great girl now for about a year and a half. (I'm 28, she's 27) She has a 3 year old daughter (dad is no longer in the picture whatsoever). We've both been married before, neither of us has any contact with our ex-spouse, so there's no drama or anything there. I get along great with her daughter, we always have a good time, etc. She recently moved back in with her parents so that she could save money while going back to school (she already has a degree in criminology). I own my home and have a roommate. Here's the situation : When we first started dating, I wanted to have a talk with her about the fact that I didn't know if I would ever want to get married or even live with a woman again. I told her from the start that I did not want children. I also told her that I wasn't sure if I would ever want anything more than a stable, dating relationship (we are exclusive, of course). She really loves me and would never leave me. The question is : am I being fair to her by possibly keeping her from finding someone who will "take care of her" in a more traditional sense by marrying her, being a father to her child, etc? Am I being fair to myself by not trying to find someone that doesn't have a child? The main issue is the child. If she did not have a daughter, we'd already most likely be living together. Thoughts?