is it better to be extroverted to get a girlfriend?

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  1. Shogun Rua

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    your thoughts?
     
  2. evh

    evh Active Member

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    isn't that the only way it will happen?
     
  3. Ideotique

    Ideotique Drinking on monday nights does not make me an alco

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    Well, if by extroverted you mean talking to people, then yes. Unless you have developed telepathy I don't see how else it would happen
     
  4. Falconer

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    no, it's better to find someone with whom you are compatible.

    my gf and i are both pretty introverted, and we have awesome chemistry.

    being extroverted helps with meeting people, however. but when my gf and i met we instantly hit it off cuz we were both on the same wavelength about almost everyting.
     
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    dumbaznboy New Member

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    how do two actual introverts actually get to talking to each other?

    i'd think everyone has some amount of extrovertality( i think i just made up a word) in them
     
  6. kiri

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    if you want an extroverted gf, yeah
     
  7. chlywly

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    better to be yourself... I often notice extroverts attract introverts
     
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    just_another_on New Member

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    This. x2
     
  9. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    I've always liked shy guys. When I met my current boyfriend he barely said anything to me and I saw that he was nervous. I love that personally, though I know it's not what most women want.

    Moral of the story, be yourself. If you aren't an extroverted guy and act extroverted just to get a girl eventually she's going to realize it wasn't who you are and who she was initially attracted to is who she'll want to be with.
     
  10. King Primate

    King Primate Kill all humans

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    I don't think that you have to be an extrovert to get a girlfriend. You just need to be able to see when someone is interested in you, and if you are interested at the same time you then have to make a leap and take a chance.

    I am totally introverted but if I see that someone is interested in me when I am in them. I make myself make a move.
     
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    You have to be able to give a woman something to be attracted to. Most women are attracted to social status. Extroverts generally have higher social status than introverts. So unless you meet a girl that is attracted to introverts or shy guys, which most women aren't, then yes, it is better to have some extroversion to attract women.
     
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    its better to find someone your compatable with
     
  13. Falconer

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    i was attracted to my gf *because* she was an introvert.

    my personality type is not compatible with party girl type personality gfs (thats my politically correct rephrasing of "party girls dont make good gfs").

    obviously i was extroverted enough to pursue her (thanks vag and tyler durden's "foundations").

    but we both have introverted tendencies, altho she is more shy than i am.

    the other day she said "i love that you dont want to go out and party all the time." i was like "same here."

    she's hot but she's not an attention whore. that's rare. she's also smart (we watch "the Universe") and kinda nerdy (likes LOTR and plays WoW).

    extroverts will meet more people but that doesnt necessarily mean they'll meet more relationship-quality people.

    introverts tend to recognize each other and click very quickly.
     
  14. Yail Bloor

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    extro > intro
     
  15. knucks

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    Are you sure you're not confusing extroverted with outgoing?
     
  16. Bob Brown

    Bob Brown bewshit, bewshit, bewshit

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    :h5:

    so jealous. I'm getting sick of attention whores......even the above average ones.

    ur one lucky SOB.

    but to the topic, I agree, just find someone that gels well with you. Don't go SO out of your way to get a girl, eventually it will not work out when you revert back to your normal self.
     
  17. lauren

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    if you're intp you cant just will yourself into esfj


    even if you could, you'd be attracting the wrong kind of person.
     
  18. Jacy

    Jacy red lipstick brigade

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    I usually have a preference for introverted men
     
  19. Falconer

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    i woule write a way longer reply but i can only post from my phone. fazle is working to unban my IP and soon i will return!
     
  20. MissKitty

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    I am an extrovert and my husband is an introvert. I chased him :big grin:
     
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    online dating is an introvert's best friend
     
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    well god damn, you stole the words right outta my mouth..
    you better hang on to her falconer lol
     
  25. jj1911

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    If you're an introverted person, that doesn't mean you NEVER speak to anyone, it just means in general you're not as outgoing. I know plenty of introverted people who have great relationships.
    If you pretend to be outgoing, and someone likes that and then finds out you're not being real it could be bad in the long run. Just be yourself, introverted people can make friends and have relationships just like extroverted people.
    my 2 cents.
     

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