Is Chivalry Dead??

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  1. sportsjunkie

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    I went on brunch date today with a guy met online :o

    We talked about for a week before meeting. He told me he'd pick me up, which i was skeptical about, but i went along with it.

    So today comes and he picks me ups, opens/closes my door in car, opens door to restaurant, clears my plate to the side when i'm done, etc. and I'm like :eek4:

    :rofl: I've never experienced this before :dunno: I kind of like it
    I know this stuff wears off and maybe he was just being polite, but first impressions are key and he got brownie points imo. But I guess overall, I don't see many men do the small, polite things in public with their ladies

    but do you guys still do the small stuff for your ladies...and ladies do your guys do this?
     
  2. KiddX

    KiddX Tigth as Piston In Ferrari Engine!

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    I was raised in a family full of women, so being a gentlemen to me is (almost) second nature. My problem is that i fall into "nice guy" territory quickly as a result. I really enjoy it, though. i think if more women had men who showed a little chivalry, it would be a good thing
     
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    exactly. we were discussing that as well. he was raised that way he said as well.
    he also said that most women take him for a friend after that, but hell, i'll take a nice gentleman over a dirt bag any day :o

    i like the old fashioned vibe
     
  4. KiddX

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    Its really that i still dont know where the line is. I assume that a certain action is chivalrous but its really me being a coward and sacrificing something i believe for the sake of what i THINK makes her happy. I am working on it though :mamoru:
     
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    me too :h5:
     
  6. Ideotique

    Ideotique Drinking on monday nights does not make me an alco

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    I do the holding the door open thing, but not the opening the car door thing. I got berated for being a patronising chauvinist for it once, so I just never did it again.
     
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    i'd like to think i'm rather polite to girls, well most, i also almost always end up in the friendzone though, soo meh
     
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    I always do the door thing, as well as a few other small things like that, though the car door, not so much. My girlfriend was actually shocked that I opened doors for her.
     
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    true, i'm also pretty reserved around those i don't know well and stuff so its not simply that
     
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    I tell my gf that shes walking home if she doesnt let me open doors for her.
     
  11. Ideotique

    Ideotique Drinking on monday nights does not make me an alco

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    :werd:

    You can be polite and chivalrous and still get laid.
     
  12. Bob Brown

    Bob Brown bewshit, bewshit, bewshit

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    I was brought up that way, so to me it is something normal...and i scoff at people who dont even try.
     
  13. enfiniti

    enfiniti How firm thy friendship ... OHIO!

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    I think you are questioning the wrong audience.
     
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    im going to be the broken record,

    but i do the same. always have, always will.

    just the way i was raised.

    although, sometimes it takes me forever to get through a door,....hold it open for one person and a whole crowd appears....
     
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    :rofl:

    i know...what was i thinking
     
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    Ideotique Drinking on monday nights does not make me an alco

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    It's cause we're all awesome and shit :bigthumb:
     
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    It's kind of hard to be a chivalrous gentlemen when you can't find a "lady" anywhere. :dunno:

    I used to have a whole handful of shit like this that I"d do:

    Open doors
    Pull out her chair
    Let her walk first through any door
    I even went one further and when we'd be walking down the street, I'd always be the one on the side with the "traffic" (that one is an oldie that very few actually know about)

    I opened the car door for my wife for 3 or 4 years before she finally actually FORCED me to stop doing it. :dunno:

    But personally, the more I change the more I realize that this stuff is outdated. It's nice to be chivalrous, but when it's purely one-sided, it kind of loses it's luster. For every chivarlrous thing a guy does, there are responses that a girl is supposed to do, and I have yet to find a girl who knows any of that shit. :rofl:
     
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    It stopped yielding results, so guys stopped being gentlemen. Something like that. :o Most guys get tired of bullshitting, and try to find an equal ground. Women aren't waiters, men aren't butlers.
     
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    Not like it used to. That's the point.
     
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    I never said it was wrong.

    I actually merged my old chivalrous ways into a more all-ecompassing, all-inclusive type of thing.

    Instead of opening doors for just women, I open doors for everyone. I don't worry about which side of the sidewalk I am on anymore. And I don't pull chairs out or open car doors.

    But I treat all PEOPLE (not just girls) with respect. Chivalry's problem was that it put women up on a pedastal. And the truth is, you just need to have some common courtesy to ALL people.
     
  21. cascade85

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    Hehe, yeah my fiancé always has to open the door for me or he gets bothered and if there are women behind me he will stay there until they all go through.
     
  22. Lucky Penny

    Lucky Penny Mr. cut me some slack cause I don't wanna go back,

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    :hs: My SO does that too. He also opens the door for me and lets me go through first. He also carries my bags to and from the car when I'm at his house (which is really helpful cause I usually have a lot of stuff :mamoru:) It's really awesome and I totally appreciate it. To me, it shows that he respects me, and that really means a lot.

    What you said about finding a lady that responds in kind made me stop and think about how I reciprocate his kindness. Thanks for bringing that up! I don't want him to ever feel like his actions go unappreciated. <3
     
  23. Lucky Penny

    Lucky Penny Mr. cut me some slack cause I don't wanna go back,

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    :bowrofl: True and True.
     
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    I hold doors open and do other miscellaneous things that might be considered chivalrous but I've never gotten into the opening the car door thing. Seems awkward to me.
     

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