I'm really starting to wonder. Disclaimer- Post is not about getting laid. Getting laid and getting into a long term relationship are very different, and I really don't care that much about getting laid. And no, by nice I don't mean boring, or unfunny, or someone who can't stand up for themselves, etc. We all know those are negative traits. I'm just honestly wondering if avoiding confrontation, treating other people like you'd like to be treated, and generally giving a damn and trying are even positive traits anymore. Everyone I know in long-term relationships treats their partner like relative shit, compared to what I'd expect. Creating arguments, confrontations, fights, etc. I can't imagine picking a fight with my spouse, I literally don't think I'd be capable of doing it. I can bring something up that needs to be discussed and might not be the happiest of discussions, but to instigate a fight just for the fuck of it... I just can't imagine doing it. But I see everyone else do it. All the time. Most of the people I know (Including myself) who are predominantly single are nice. They treat people well, they don't cause problems, and they try to make everything better. And what do they get for it? Being single. I just don't get it. Everyone says they want a nice guy, but do you, really? Every dickhead I know has been in constant relationships since they were 15, and have no problem getting women. Every nice guy I know has hell getting a girlfriend. It's almost the same with nice women as well. I don't know, I'm just confused I suppose. The more of a dick I am, the more successful I seem to be, but I hate being a dick. Why is it that people tend to abuse and cast aside people who are nice, instead of just enjoying it?