The only handgun I've ever shot before is a .380, a Femaru my grandfather took from a German in WWII. It was really small, and the .380 has a really snappy recoil, which I didn't like. I was thinking about a G19 or something else compact in 9mm. (I have tiny girl hands ), but what about a 1911? Everyone says the .45 has a much slower push as opposed to a snap.